My only son will turn 5 at the end of this month, and is an extremely sweet, intelligent, vivacious child with a rich inner world. He is very verbal and communicative, and both his father and I have a very close relationship with him. However, he doesn't seem interested in playing with other children of his age or younger. He is never "mean", but tends to ignore them when they come over, when we have playdates, or at his preschool. He retreats in his own pretend world of Starwars, running around pretending to be Darth Vader, shooting, and being generally anti-social. He doesn't seem interested in including other kids in his world--unless they are very insistent and agree to do whatever he wants them to do. In which case, he will play the "dominant" kid, set all the rules, chase and refuse to be chased, and they will run around shooting together until the other kid gets tired of being bossed around. The minute the kid wants to do something else, my son will walk away and play by himself. Ironically, he is also very sensitive and shy, unsure how to insert himself in a group of peers, and at the same time, will tend to inforce his rules, constantly correcting the other child etc. He has never "connected" with another kid, has never expressed any attachment or genuine liking to any other kid, except for much older kids--8-10yrs olds, teenagers, and adults-- with which he is very loving and talkative and interested--perhaps because they tend to humor him and go along with whatever he wants to do. I'd like to help him be more flexible and form attachments with peers. I ask him repeatedly to "be nice" to other kids--so he tries very hard not to ignore them even though he insists "they are not fun". I'm afraid I'm making him very self-conscious and I don't want him to start thinking of himself as a "problem" kid. I also need him to understand the value of friends, of flexibility, and kindness. He'll be going to kindergarden next year, and I'm concerned he will withdraw completely. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.