5 year old boys

My best friend and I both have 5 year old boys.  The other day I walked into my sons room and his pants down and my friends child licking his bum hole with his pants off.  As soon as I walked into the room the boys turned around and nervously pulled their pants up.  I brought them outside and asked my friend to come over so we could talk without the dads or other children around.  My friends child got so upset that he had to be put in the car and just kept saying he didn't want to go fishing.  I talked to my son and he said his friend pulled down his pants and started to lick his penis and then his bum and then visa versa.  A similar thing happened about six months ago and we all had the talk that clothes stay on when they play and nobody touches anyone in their private parts.  My friend took her son home and we talked to our son but is this a normal thing?  I know children are curious but this seems a little disturbing to me. Please advise.

[megochick101]

This does not sound normal at all to me. Yes, children are curious but this seems to go way beyond curiosity. Has your son ever done this with any other children or with only your friend's boy? If he has done this with other kids, he may have seen it somewhere, on tv or with someone else, or he could have possibly been sexually abused. I do not believe children would do this kind of behavior without seeing or experiencing it first.

If your child only does this with your friends son, then the other boy may be the one who is watching explicit tv or could have been sexually abused. Either way, I would take your child to a child psychologist to be evaluated, to make sure nothing has happened to him and that he doesn't have any bad effects from doing this with your friends boy.

I would definitely talk to your regular doc and see if they can recommend a child psychologist to you or if they could help you further. I know we as parents don't want to think about our children(or our friends children) possibly being sexually abused but you never know who is out there, that might be doing this. But i seriously believe that children would not do this just out of curiosity. Hope I helped and good luck! :)