My son is not a young 5, he is actually going to be six the middle of Nov.. As far as his maturity, I'm not sure. He hasn't seemed to be immature in any ways, except I may have babied him a little too much. I mean, I feel I may have done too much for him, things he could have started doing on his own sooner than I let him or encouraged him to do so. For example, if he wants to go outside or excited about something were going to do he'll pick out his clothes, get dressed, put his shoes on etc., if not and I ask him to do those things he'll say he needs help with pretty much everything. But he is capable so I don't know if I'd consider that immaturity. The Dr. he 's going to see is a psychologist. I've tried having him put something of mine in his pocket, didn't seem to do much. I think you made a good point about maybe he's just not ready and a half day is something I'm going to consider and discuss. Thank you for your input. Talking does help.
You poor son. He needs lots of love and support from you. I'm glad you are consulting a doctor for his anxiety (which being scared of school sounds like) but if medications comes into the picture, I'd only allow a psychiatrist that deals with children prescribe it.
Is your son a young 5 (either by birthdate or maturity)? Perhaps he is not quite ready for kindergarten. In our area, the schools and teachers stress that when a child starts kindergarten really doesn't matter if it takes an extra year to make sure they are emotionally ready. So if your son is a young 5 (summer birthday)---- that might be the case. Also, do you have a half day kindergarten option. That sounds like it would be better for him.
Keep yourself posative about this and have a mental health and developmental evaluation done. But most of all, show him patience and kindness (which it sounds like you are.) It sounds like the usual of putting a picture of yourself in his bag and pep talks might do little good.
I wish you lots of luck, be his advocate and get him so that HE feels good on the inside.