50/50 time split taking toll on 3yo

* Daughter never had granddaughter 4 days a week except 2 times when she went on vacation and often didn't have   her for the 3 days allotted for one excuse or another.
* Daughter is a so-so parent on her best day. After the 3 days visitation she and granddaughter are ready to part.

After recently breaking up with her boyfriend and moving 200 miles away to live with her bio mother, daughter began demanding to have granddaughter a week at a time. She petitioned the court for it. We never, in a million years, thought the court would agree to her demands but did. Our SIL is filing an appeal. We are praying he wins.

Our grand daughter has already started to display out of character behaviors and she has only had to endure this arrangement for the past 3 weeks.
She cried terribly when dropped off at daycare last week. She has always loved going and being with her little friends and learning new things the caregivers teach.  
She pack rats everything she possibly can. She has a little tote on wheels and wants to get as much in it as she can when she leaves our home and goes to her other grandparents home. She does the same thing there. She does the same thing no matter where she goes except her mothers. It's like she is trying to keep something with her that won't be left behind.
She is very clingy for a couple of days when returning from her mothers. It is so sad but so obvious she is afraid of losing what she wants so much to hold onto.
When she has to go with her mother she has no bedroom, nothing of her own except what she may get to carry with her. The house is a 3 bedroom, 1 bathroom place with 6 people in it when she is there. I wont even go into the characters of the people there except to say that daughters bio mother didn't raise her and didn't contribute to her raising at all.

We have GOT to do everything possible to show the court the error of the decision that was made to allow this to happen. Please tell us your opinion and what we might do. !!!  

[margypops]

I have to tell you that whatever.. other than child abuse it is always best children have both parents in their lives ..he is clingy because she misses her mom .. my opinion is that parenting should be shared ...