5yr old son misbehaves at school

[drej]

How can i control my sons behavior at school? he has gotten kicked out of 3 schools. all leading to misbehavior and he is only five, now in the 1st grade. pre k he cried for 3 months straight everyday, kindergarten he climbed over tables, hid under them, showed people his butt, talked back with a grown up attitude, defiant, does what he wants, 1st grade, talks back to teacher with a attitude, acts like he doesnt know how to do anything in class (but he is smart, he knows how to read and do math) he hides under tables when he doesnt want to listen. I have no control over him at school. might get kicked out of school again and it has only been 3days of school. i have recently been putting him on a strict schedule, and he doesnt get to do anything at all during the day. i fear that he has some disorder, or that his behavior will lead him to home schooling. what can i do to get him to behave and like school?

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Without delay you should arrange an evaluation. If your son were having a medical crisis you would have him at the doctor immediately. This is no different. Stop trying to manage this by yourself - it is not working. I don't mean to be hard on you, but put your energy into getting him help. Contact his doctor today and stress the urgency of the matter. Your son needs to be evaluated by a mental health professional asap. In addition, tell his school that you want him to be evaluated under provisions of the special education laws in your jurisdiction. He will likely require a specialized class for children who display serious behavioral difficulties.

[angelinamarina]

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this.  I hve had similar issues with our 5 year old daughter.

I hope that you have had your son tested by a developmental pediatrician.  It sounds like he could have ADHD maybe, anxiety, depression or ? something else going on.  These things can all be brain chemistry issues, not parenting or misbehavior issues.  

If you have not had him in to the ped and explained that he has been kicked out of 3 schools and cried for 3 months please do so.

If he does have brain chemistry issues and he keeps getting in trouble at school and at home....he will have a lot of social issues later in life.  Seriously, please get this kid checked out if you have not already.

It would be a gift to him and to you to find out what is really going on because this is not typical behavior.

My 5 year old daughter is adhd and has a lot of anxiety...the best thing we ever did for her and us was to get her assessed  and treated.