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6 Year old Boy an Sexual
Im 27 years old, an have one Son. Im NoTT "Mommy of the Year" Even as much as I'd like to be. I Dont Know everything........I Need some help. My son will b 6 years old in just a few days. I have found him in his bed, kissing a doll. He will be outside in his pool, an the water house an hold it to his private parts....... Saying he "likes the feeling". The other day, I walked out on the porch to find him sitting back in chair, with his kitten in the chair also. My son had his private's out......in his hand. I grounded him from tv an his game system. I talked to him, or tried to atleast. Why would You be doing these thing's? Has AnyOne ever touched youre private's? Or asked You to touch them? He say's "No, that his brain just tell's him to do thing's, an that it feel's good to him" Well, Tonight........ I walk outside to find........ My son sitting in grass. He has 2 kitten's around him, NoT 'touching himself' this time. BuT his private's were hard! Im absolutely beside MySelf. I DoNT Know how to deal with this situation! Is this normal behavior? With a CaT around? Is My Son 'Over sexual' at SiX? Has he possibly been abused? I've NeVER been the type to go to counselor's or therapist. I DoNT really agree with ALoT of there ways. I DONT Know what else to do! Should I take him somewhere to talk to SomeOne else. I CaNT get AnyThing out of him. I NeeeeD HeLP PLZ. Any helpful thoughts are appreciated!!!!
This is incredibly late response, but in case anyone else with a similar problem reads this maybe it can help them. I have an extensive background in child development and psychology. I've worked with hundreds of children.
Yes it IS very common for boys between 5-7 to experience erections for the first time. Generally they are spontaneous and uncontrolled. Many boys experiencing this can be somewhat concerned, frightened, or just claim the erection "hurts" or feels uncomfortable. It's all part of the body preparing for puberty. Many children, male and female, "masturbate" as young as 2 years old. It's all part of them exploring and discovering their body.
In your case, it is very possible that your some may have been accidentally exposed to pornography, or something similar on television. Many children walk in on parents in the midst of sexual acts sometimes without the parents even realizing the child has seen them. Another theory is that another child, possibly older shared information with him, such as what oral sex is.
You might suspects abuse if your child has other serious symptoms or behavioral issues. Depression, anxiety, fear of adults etc.
If sexual abuse is ruled out, simply talk to your child. Ask them gently "where did you learn about these things" and let them know, their privates should not be touched or played with by other people and it's ok to say "no" if someone asks. Emphasize that your child's probated are for them and them only.
To discourage exposure and masterbation type behaviors tell them "our privates need to stay in our clothes unless going potty" and or "if we've been touching our privates we need to go wash our hands so we don't spread germs" Be gentle, understanding but very consistent so your child understands appropriate behavior. Avoid shaming or punishing your child as they do not yet understand privates uses and what's appropriate and could lead to self-shame, embarrassment, and sexual confusion.
Also remind your child that sexual acts between people is for grown ups only.
If things progress rapidly or you notice other concerning behaviors find a wonderful therapist who is experienced in handling such cases.
Most importantly, show your child unconditional love, compassion, and support as they go through the changing stages of their body.
Yes it IS very common for boys between 5-7 to experience erections for the first time. Generally they are spontaneous and uncontrolled. Many boys experiencing this can be somewhat concerned, frightened, or just claim the erection "hurts" or feels uncomfortable. It's all part of the body preparing for puberty. Many children, male and female, "masturbate" as young as 2 years old. It's all part of them exploring and discovering their body.
In your case, it is very possible that your some may have been accidentally exposed to pornography, or something similar on television. Many children walk in on parents in the midst of sexual acts sometimes without the parents even realizing the child has seen them. Another theory is that another child, possibly older shared information with him, such as what oral sex is.
You might suspects abuse if your child has other serious symptoms or behavioral issues. Depression, anxiety, fear of adults etc.
If sexual abuse is ruled out, simply talk to your child. Ask them gently "where did you learn about these things" and let them know, their privates should not be touched or played with by other people and it's ok to say "no" if someone asks. Emphasize that your child's probated are for them and them only.
To discourage exposure and masterbation type behaviors tell them "our privates need to stay in our clothes unless going potty" and or "if we've been touching our privates we need to go wash our hands so we don't spread germs" Be gentle, understanding but very consistent so your child understands appropriate behavior. Avoid shaming or punishing your child as they do not yet understand privates uses and what's appropriate and could lead to self-shame, embarrassment, and sexual confusion.
Also remind your child that sexual acts between people is for grown ups only.
If things progress rapidly or you notice other concerning behaviors find a wonderful therapist who is experienced in handling such cases.
Most importantly, show your child unconditional love, compassion, and support as they go through the changing stages of their body.
Its coming from somewhere, someone, or something he observed! 6 year olds typically don't engage in these sexual behaviors. I really don't want to second guess what is going on. That is why I am pointing you and your son in the direction of mental health counseling so that you can get to the bottom of what is going on.
If these behaviors occur at school, you may have bigger problems. That is why it is best to get this behavior evaluated now.
If these behaviors occur at school, you may have bigger problems. That is why it is best to get this behavior evaluated now.
My son an I are Very close. He's Just starting school this year, for the first time. Up until now, he's NoT been away from Me. With the exception of Family, close family. Ann, NeVER over night or anything even with that. As I said in my post, I have TRiED talking to him, an asked repeatedly all the "has anyone ever" questions. You really think this is coming from sexual abuse? Ugghhhhhh, Im FREAKiNG out right now.
Yes. Take him to see a counselor ASAP. It is unusual for a 6 year old to be this sexualized. Sexual abuse needs to be ruled out. Seeing a therapist may be the only way to rule out sexual abuse.
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