6 Year old finally in own bed

[blondie111]

Is this normal.... i have been having trouble lately getting my son in to bed especially in his own bed because he has always been in mine which i know was a mistake on my behalf, finally over the last two night he has been sleeping in his own bedroom not with out a fight though he would cry for ages on this but finally he gives in and goes to sleep, i hate seeing my son upset over this and i don't know is it worth all this pain for him, and when i go to bed at night i feel lonely with out him and sad that i have made him sleep in his own bed i hate this and i don't know should i keep this up any advice would be great thanks.

[winmill]

I have a 5 year old, my husband works 2nd shift so when he was a baby he did sleep in my bed.   At about age 3 I decided to have him sleep in his own bed.  This was a fight, but I was strong and did not give in.  Sometime to help him to not feel so lonely I would lay with him for a few minutes in his bed before going on to my bed, this way we both still got in a little snuggle time for sleep.  Now looking back, I think the transition was harder on me than it was on him.
Now he goes to bed every night, we read a story, he says his prayers and we turn out the lights, he goes to sleep on his own with no arguements ( most nights).  There is still the occasional "Mommy, I wish I could sleep in your bed".

[blondie111]

thanks so much for your reply back to me, awh really i know i think it is harder for me than what it is for him, i think that is because we live on our own just the 2 of us, and my mum aint helping because she thinks there is nothing wrong he will go into his own bed when his ready and that he is only young for a short time, but i think differently if i don't get him into his bed now id say i never will,  so i guess i will just have to be stronge about this i just feel so guilty about all of this andespecially when he is so up set and keeps coming into my room and i have to keep getting up and returning him to his own bedroom, i feel like last night i couldnt even sleep because he wasnt with me....