6 Year old finally in own bed

Is this normal.... i have been having trouble lately getting my son in to bed especially in his own bed because he has always been in mine which i know was a mistake on my behalf, finally over the last two night he has been sleeping in his own bedroom not with out a fight though he would cry for ages on this but finally he gives in and goes to sleep, i hate seeing my son upset over this and i don't know is it worth all this pain for him, and when i go to bed at night i feel lonely with out him and sad that i have made him sleep in his own bed i hate this and i don't know should i keep this up any advice would be great thanks.

[winmill]

I have a 5 year old, my husband works 2nd shift so when he was a baby he did sleep in my bed.   At about age 3 I decided to have him sleep in his own bed.  This was a fight, but I was strong and did not give in.  Sometime to help him to not feel so lonely I would lay with him for a few minutes in his bed before going on to my bed, this way we both still got in a little snuggle time for sleep.  Now looking back, I think the transition was harder on me than it was on him.
Now he goes to bed every night, we read a story, he says his prayers and we turn out the lights, he goes to sleep on his own with no arguements ( most nights).  There is still the occasional "Mommy, I wish I could sleep in your bed".

[blondie111]

thanks so much for your reply back to me, awh really i know i think it is harder for me than what it is for him, i think that is because we live on our own just the 2 of us, and my mum aint helping because she thinks there is nothing wrong he will go into his own bed when his ready and that he is only young for a short time, but i think differently if i don't get him into his bed now id say i never will,  so i guess i will just have to be stronge about this i just feel so guilty about all of this andespecially when he is so up set and keeps coming into my room and i have to keep getting up and returning him to his own bedroom, i feel like last night i couldnt even sleep because he wasnt with me....

[lanotla]

I am a mother of 20 months old son, and he sleeps with my husband and me and I am in no hurry to have him sleep in his own room. I myself slept with my parents until 12 years old !! I come from a very special family, all my siblings (2 sisters, 1 brother) slept with my parents in a large family bed. Night time was the most wonderful time for us, and we loved it and even today we cuddle up with our parents and we have this wonderful bond in our family.
According to my own experience, there is nothing wrong when a child wants to sleep with the parents, instead it gives that complete security and inner strength. Eventually the child will outgrow the need to sleep with the parents, like I wanted to have my own room at 12. I am happy today for what I was given by my parents, I try to do the same with my son. Sleeping should be the time to relax for everyone and I personally don`t think it is good to make the child anxious before to go to bed.
However, you are the mother, you have your instinct to listen, and I wish you the best.

anna