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6 year old son lied about being hit
My almost 7 year old son had his annual physical today.  He lied and told the nurse and then the doctor that his father hits him.  He also told them that his father drinks a lot (he does not drink at all), and he lied twice about having to go to the bathroom.  My son admitted to lying and said he was sorry.

The doctor discussed discipline methods with my husband (he took my son to the physical), and my husband explained that we use time outs.  We do not spank, let alone hit.

My husband and I are now wondering what will happen.  Is the doctor likely to contact social services?  What will happen if they do?

Please let me preempt questions about the veracity of my claim that my son was lying.  No, I am not a deluded wife.  My son shows absolutely no evidence of abuse (except claiming that it happens).  I have many other reasons to be confident that my husband does not abuse my son.

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13167 tn?1327197724
Why is your son trying to hurt your husband?  
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My beloved, highly spirited, highly intelligent, probably ADHD (preliminary diagnosis) son did tell me that he wanted to get his Dad in trouble when I asked him why he said that to the doctor.  He has always pushed the envelope and said things to see what sort of reaction he could get.  We're having a comprehensive cognitive, educational and behavioral workup done on him next month.

We're trying not to freak out now.  I don't know if I should call the doctor and talk to her.  I think I should, but I'm hesitant.  I don't know if she will call social services.  If she does, I don't know what social services will do.  All these unknowns make me nervous.  If I knew the doctor's office's policies, or social services procedures, I would feel more confident.  Unfortunately, I can't find social service procedures published on the web, so I don't know where to get that information.
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13167 tn?1327197724
You didn't answer the question at all.  

Why is your son trying to hurt your husband?  That's the key question,  you need to answer it at least for yourself if no on this board.

Why is your son trying to hurt your husband?  Really, you probably know.
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I have 6 children. I have two that are compulsive liars. My oldest daughter started telling lies that were harmful at about 4 years old. Once she told my ex husband that she seen me kissing a man. I was isolated to my home with no way to go anywhere and was in a extremely abusive marriage. It was if she got a thrill out of watching me receive beatings. I did nothing to her to make her want me to be hurt. She just liked the rush. Later on as a teenager after I finally got away. She didn't like my rules and told the authorities that I abused her to get out of my house so she could roam the streets. I was stuck in the court system for six years and finally exhonerated. But now my 16 year old is pulling the same nonsense. Some kids just lie.
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I would stop worring right now.  I have been a foster mom for 2 years and know a lot of the procedures.  First doctors that have found a child to be abused, must by law report it.  However if this doctor saw no "true" signs of abuse he will not report it.  Let's just say he did, and your son was not abused.  The social services most likely will come to your house and talk with you and your husband, and child alone.  Social services are all about keeping families together.  If there was abuse they would do all they could to get you and your husband help, and return your son to you.  Worrying about something that has not happened is so mentally exhausting.  Try to release this, and everytime you start to worry, force your mind to think on something else.  YOu need to get a good nights sleep, worrying keeps us from sleeping well.  I am going to pray for you and your family right now.
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This is highly inaccurate, if the doctor did make the phone call, it is still possible for the child to be taken from the parents. My two year old said that their father hurt them when in reality they threw a tantrum that resulted into a bruise on their cheek. CPS made us go to the ER and get them evaluated, they had bruises on arms legs and on the cheek. The DR said that all the bruise were signs of normal play and that they were no signs of abuse. However, they pull my child alone to "question" them and then all of a sudden statements are made by my child saying that they get hit by their father in specific areas. And the statement came from a 2 year old? My child started speaking 3 word sentences 2 weeks prior to this and all of a sudden everyone can understand? Seems to me words were put in their mouth and depending on the mood of the worker they decide whether or not they want to ruin the child's life. Seems like people running around with god complexes.
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Wow, that's some of the worst advice I've ever heard (read). Your main concern right now is not getting a good night's sleep. Your main concern should be that your son is displaying signs of having a conduct disorder, which if left unchecked could turn into antisocial personality disorder by the time he's a teen. Which is the same as a sociopath. I understand you don't spank - that's fine. But sometimes time outs are not appropriate for every transgression. If he were my child, and I were absolutely positive that there was no basis for the abuse allegation, then I would start using VERY firm discipline. Whether he has ADHD traits or not, this WILL work. You are going to have a hard road ahead of you, because behavior usually gets worse before it gets better.
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You are right depending upon the temperament of a child can depend of what type of discipline is used. Some children can cry just at someone saying that they a disappointed in them. Some need time-out to reflect what they did.
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im hving same problem my daughter of 5 is claiming bruses on leg and bum was me kicking her, and has said several other things about me that i dont know about in detail yet. in my case i belive my wife is priming her to say these things as my wife is already planing to cheat on me in a week of acusations and has also acused me of abusing her. i havent seen my wife or kids for 2-3 weeks now and the lies are really getting to me. all i can sugest for you is to pray that god reviels the truth. as in my situation i cant do anything myself anyway. and cant see a way of proving my innocence unless my child tells them who is making her say such things. i cant offer help other than payer, but i can offer you a worse situation that may make you feel better abut yours :)
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I'm currently going through the same thing with my 7 yr old son. He's aid I punched him which resulted in social services taking him to the hospital to be assessed. The dr said the bruise that was on his hip was old and was not done through a punch which it wasn't my son seem to forget we were in a bouncy castle the week prior and we were both wrestling. Now he's had his second meet at school with the social worker and what he told me he said to her has made me feel sick , he said daddy doesn't pinch me anymore ! I have no clue as to how to talk to him about what he's saying are evil lies and that could get me into a lot of trouble. I feel like I'm treading on egg shells around him sacred if I even put him in a time out hell just tell more lies to the school.
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We are currently in the same situation with my 12 year old daughter. She was living with my new husband and myself. Her father has been an absentee parent most of the time. Visitation was very spotty. The children might go 6 weeks between visits at a time. Several times we had to go pick up my daughter because her father was being so nasty to her during his parenting time. She would make false accusations about my other children being mean to her or to other children in school being mean to her. All of a sudden, she started telling kids at school that she was transferring schools and going to live with her father. I find this out several weeks later when a concerned parent told me she overheard it. All of a sudden my ex takes her for a one week visit and files a petition in court for custody as well as a restraining order against my husband, who wouldn't harm a flea. She completely made up a story about how he broke her phone and threw a gatorade bottle at her. It is scary how this can happen. There weeks prior I had to talk her into visiting him at all and now she lives there and made up these lies.
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My teen is lying saying her step dad beats her. He does not. However he did grab her arm to tightly to get her out of the bathroom (she's a big size girl) that she locked herself in and that left a hand bruise for a couple days on her upper arm, but she used that to tell her teachers he beats her. We are all stressed out, not knowing what's going to happen. She doesn't seem to care about what she has done to this family. I have no idea what to do anymore. He did what I would have done, except I would have had the strength to move her.
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