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6 year old still peeing his pants

I have a 6yr old son who daily wets his pants. He says he cant feel it when it happens but other times he does get the urge to pee. We have taken him to his dr & 2 specialists as well who did tests and all say nothing is wrong. Said he would out grow it before he started 1st grade but he didnt. He does all his own laundry as a natural consiquence. We thought it could be a mental health issue & had him evaluated only to hear he is a " bright, well rounded young man". We have him pee every 2 hours but he will wet his pants in the mean time. At least 2 times a day. What should I do next? Is their something else to test for?
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hello im having the same problem with my son he is almost 4 and still having accidents. ALL the time, I have tried everything and nothing is doing the trick.. im so stuck and don't know what to do with him.... any advice will help. we have been to the doctors and they said the same thing he will grow out of it, but when??? thanks
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My grandon wet the bed until just recently and he will be 8 years old in June.  His Dr. told his mother that sometimes it can take until they are 8 years old before they have the control to hold it over night.  He had problems during the day at times also but not as bad as overnight.  It is a medical thing not a psychological issue.  He now goes up to 1 week with out peeing his bed.  It really is not his fault it has something to do with a gland in their brain or something like that.
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My sister-in-law experienced this with her daughter who was about the same age.  She also went to doctor after doctor only to find that her daughter was normal also.  The last doctor she saw was the most helpful.  He suggested that she buy her daughter a watch and set the alarm for every 30 minutes to an hour for potty breaks.  He also suggested that when she felt the urge to go to in courage her to hold it for as long as she could without having an accident.  Thus, stretching her bladder and her daughter feeling the increased urge to potty.  She did so and within a year she was going on her own. She also had very helpful teachers at school to help also in the bathroom breaks.
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    Thankyou for your reply.  Too often parents neglect or don't consider that there may be a medical reason for their childs problem.
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My son has "sneaky pee" during the day, but never at night. Our doctor sent us for X-rays on his 5 year exam because we brought up the sneaky pee issue. Our son's belly was distended. i didn't notice because it always seemed that way. X-rays showed a back up of bowels throughout his intestines. We have to give him 1 dose of Miralax per day. His intestines do not move solids through as expected. We tried to cut back the MiraLax, but we have found that daily doses is successful. Our son has had to re-train to understand the feeling of having to pee. He just turned 6 and we still have a few accidents, but nothing like before. I share this story to help, but *please consult you physician before giving your child MiraLax.
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My son refuses to take miralax. Our ped did recommend it because she suspected a similar issue to your son’s. We’ve tried mixing it with a juice of his choice, milk,  water, drinking it through a straw....... and he still won’t drink it. Any other suggestions?
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Me too ...  I have tried being angry, patient, loving, nothing seems to work.
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My son will absolutely not wear diapers, let alone out of the house during the day time.  There is no way I can MAKE him wear a diaper.
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Hello,
I have a 6 yr old neice who still wets her pants. she says she forgets to go. and also said that her daddy told her she has to hold it. I tried to explain to her that she doesnt have to hold it. when you have to go pee you tell them I have to go...now! I tried to tell her if she holds it too much or long she could get sick from it. her parents are split up for a year now and she sees her dad on weekends. she pees her pants no matter who she is with. I am concerned that there may be something either physical or mental causing her to "forget" to go pee. I have tried to get my sister to take her to the doctor. but she doesnt see anything wrong. she does dicipline her when she pees her pants, especially coming home from school wet. oh also my neice says she is afriad of the big toilets and ones that flush themselves. I want to help her. but im not sure what to do or where to start. my sister wont listen and my neices father is a complete idiot. what should i do?
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Your poor niece is, in all probability, actually TERRIFIED of the 'smelly, noisy and foreboding' school toilets. In fact, in her mind, no Punishment, is worse than having to use those Toilets. I should know, this was ME forty-five years ago! I'm afraid that once you 'get into the 'habit', of just 'Going' when you feel it, it's very hard to break. It is, after all, SO much easier to just wet yourself.


I would recommend a Gentle approach, find out exactly What, it is, that is frightening/concerning her so- it could be a 'Simple' thing and easy to fix. Secondly tell her, very gently, that 'Big Girls' Wee in the toilet and, whilst it remains her choice (trust me here) surely she doesn't want to be called the 'Wet Girl' all the time.


I do appreciate that she is NOT your child, please do let her parents read this. (By the way, DO get her Medically Checked, in case, there is a physical problem- I'm certain that there won't be, but check it anyway.)


Good luck, to you all.


Andrew
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Hi,

It sound like you child has sensory integration needs and may benefit from seeing a good outpatient Occupational Therapist if you haven't tried this route already.  I recognize your description from my own son.
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Hi,

It sound like you child has sensory integration needs and may benefit from seeing a good outpatient Occupational Therapist if you haven't tried this route already.  I recognize similarities your description to my own son.
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My son is 7 years old and going into second grade in the fall.  Recently, he started wetting his pants once or twice per week.  He had accidents before but not this often.  He says that he can't control it.  He is very happy, bright, and well rounded.  We keep him very busy this summer with camp, karate, swimming lessons, Kumon and playdates  I don't understand why this is happening. His Doctor thinks that it will pass.  Did anyone figure out the reason for this?  Should I try a psychologist? He is a very sensitive child.
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I took my son when he was 6 to a chiropractor and it didn't work.  He is now 8 and still wets his pants during the day.  I have had 2 pedatricians help and an urologist and nothing has helped.  Not sure if a psychiatrist will help or if this is something he justs needs to outgrow.  He is a smart kid and is at the top of his class.  It is so frustrating to have a smart kid that can't figure out how to use the toilet.
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My son is 8 and wets his pants daily/nitely.  He uses the toilet 50% of the time.  It is very frustrating.  He never admits it and is too involved to change.  He has sensory processing disorder, therefore, we believe, he isn't aware and is attention is not what it should be.   We had him evaluated for primary reflex disorder.  Our occupational therapist checked him out.  He has several reflexes that haven't integrated.  It is quicker for you all to google Primary Reflex Disorder.  The reflex that affects the bladder is the Galant.  There are exercies that integrate this reflex.  We haven't gotten there yet.   We are also seeing a chiropractor who is firmly convinced she can get him to where we need him to be.    The patience are gone.  But I have no choice but to carry on!    Chins up everyone!
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My son is 7 years old. He was potty trained when he was about 3. For the past 2 or 3 years he has been wetting his pants everyday. Not full on peeing like dripping down his leg but I can see in his pants that there is a wet spot and I know he has to feel it or smell it lol. He is aware of it and I have talked to him and punished him several times he akways says that he was just trying to hold it and knew the whole time that he was wet. It is alwats when he is playing or doing something like he just is being lazy and tries to wait as ling as he can.. he knows I am going to find out I have tried everything!! I do not know what to do anymore I am afraid to send him to friends houses cause I know that he will do it there and it will stink and you can see it, please any advice on this. also he never has a problem with it at night he wakes up and goes
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My 5 year old boy doe's this too.   Not sure how to make it stop. He started school this year and in the last week we peed his pants 3 times thats the 1st at school.  He can be shy too but I told him to just get up and go, that the teacher won't mind.  He doe's it sometimes at home too.    His teacher seems to not understand either and I get very upset with it all.  How can I stop it, have you came up with anything yet. Let me know.  Thanks
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My 6 year old grandson is having accidents few times a day and also at night.  It is frustrating and I worry about him being teased in school.  The urine also has very strong odor so it is hard for him to hide it.  He has been with me for 2 weeks now and I'm taking him to the doctor to see if he has some infection as that might be dangerous.

I don't shame him I think that might make it worse and he is not doing this to irritate me.  I send him to the br every hour even if he says he doesn't need to he can always squeeze a few drops.  I talk to him about it and tell him that he can learn to control it by going all the time.  I believe that it will happen just like he's learning to read.  Slowly everyday with our effort.
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My 3 years old daughter, unable to hold the pee pressure. She sometimes tells about pee but not give time to go rest room.

Is this normal at this age? Please give me some suggestions.
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I am having this problem with my 6 year old daughter and I don't know what to do either.  She never had any issues in Kindergarten and she pees in her pants daily but only at school.  I have spoken with her teacher and asked if they are allowed to go and she advises me that they are allowed when they ask however she still is doing it, when I ask her she give me several answers.  She states she waited to long, that she was not allowed to go, and she if give me because I pee my pants.  I have spoken with her several times and adivsed her don't wait so long, as soon as you have to go ask.  I have had this conversion several times with her.  I have also tried to take away things she likes doing and even advised her that I am going to put in in pull -ups because I don't know what else to do myself.  
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I have a 5yr old daughter that is doing everything that boy is doing. Do you have any suggestion on her, because i have tried everything and she actually likes wearing pull ups at night. My daughter nows when she has to go, she just doesnt want to stop what she is doing most of the time to go potty. Her dad ( not together) will put her in a pull up all day and night, and if she does have an accident he thinks its funny. A friend of mine puts her daughter in a luck warm shower with clothes on and then has her take clothes off n shower, and then she takes an actual shower, if she pee's her pants. Please help me on this I am at my last rope with Ideas?
Thank you
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My daughter is 6 years old and she wets her pants at least twice a day. The restroom is accessible to her. I already talked to the doctor and he says for her to go every hour. I even advised the nurse and her teacher about this.
Now I have read the other stories and some are similar to mine. She goes to the restroom but then if someone makes her laugh, she wets herself. Or if she is playing, she rather hold it and she'll forget and as a result, she'll wet herself.
I already talked to her about this. She says she doesn't know why or that they dont let her go. But I have already discussed it with her teachers and they say she does go to the restroom but she takes long and they think she plays in there.
I have had it with the accidents. I have tried punishment, taking away toys, and even stories about her holding it in but she doesn't care. I want to know what to do? I am so frustrated and I am about to break down. Please someone give me advice!
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I completly disagree with putting a 6 year old back in diapers. You said "It is less harmful than all the emotional damage that is being done as a result of his actions". Will you not feel completely emotionaly damaged when you reach the age that you will again need to wear diapers because you bladder does not function? Both my sons had a hard time with potty training. My oldest wet his pants daily untill he was 6, then just stopped. The viberating watch really helped my younger son. We tried using a regular watch but he got embarrased infront of friends and family when it went off. I hope everything works out for everyone experiecing this tough time
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   Our six year old girl is also suddenly having accidents.  She was potty trained at 2 and half, and at age four, started wetting the bed every so often.  Somehow we got her to stop that, and now its started again, but during the day.  She says that she didnt need to go, but then she wets herself.  Im thinking she just is distracted while playing.  She also has accidents sometimes while sleeping over at friends houses or relatives houses.  We are beyond frustrated.  I would like to resort to diapers but my husband thinks that its not a good idea.  We feel so helpless and lost.  Advice PLEASE
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We are a military family. My husband has just joined in 2008, and this is our first move. We had to move to Germany, and then a year ago, to another place in Germany. My son is six, and he hasn't had any problems like this until we made that second move one year ago. He has been a bed wetter for a while, and I know that eventually he will grow out of that, with a little help from ma and pa. But recently he has been wetting his pants almost every day while he is outside playing with other kids. He never does this when he is inside. Just the other day he peed his pants four times, that is the most that he has done it in one day. It seems that it keeps getting worse. I had him tested for ADD (for other reasons) while he was in school. he only wet his pants one time throughout the year. I thought that he might be reverting back to his younger days due to sibling rivalry. I have a daughter that is turning two in august. He has told me many times that he thinks that we love his sister more them him. I have explained to him that this isn't true. 'The baby needs a little more attention because she is a baby, that doesn't mean that we don't love you.' The other kids poke fun at him and call him a baby and, just today, disgusting. They will run away from him screaming...as if he is a scary monster or something... This make shim so upset that he brings home an attitude that I can't stand. I have theories of what could be wrong, but none of them seem to have an exact fit to it. These problems and emotions that he has no idea how to deal with might all have something to do with it... I just don't know. I am at a loss of things to try, and find myself loosing my temper with him. I tired of cleaning all of his cloths so often!
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I just want to thank everyone for sharing their stories, it really made a tough morning for me and my almost 5 year old a little better. My daughter is the youngest of 3 and was potty trained at 2, but has been having accidents more and more lately. My husband and I have yelled at her, ignored her, talked to her, but nothing is working. She is going to Kindergarten in a couple of months and I'm just frustrated with this whole thing. Knowing that I'm not alone, makes me feel a lot better. Best of luck to everyone.
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