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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
6 year old who always feels victimized
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
6 year old who always feels victimized
by Jane, Oct 06, 2000 12:00AM
I have a 6 year old who is intelligent, and kind but always ends up feeling victimized. She feels that she is being treated unfairly by other children which results in her crying. This behavior has in turn, led the other children to now pick on her which causes her to cry more. She sings around the home and is generally a happy kid; but her socialization problems have become a growing concern because she has no one to play with. I think I handled it wrong when she was younger (3/4) by coddling her. She has now been told, at great length that if she crys or is bossy she will have no friends, but our talks don't seem to get through to her. She can't seem to shrug it off or learn to laugh at this behavior. I realize that the problem is not the other children but her, since this behavior occurs with even the easiest going playmates. She is now the child picked last for sports teams and is made fun of by the other kids. It breaks my heart for her.
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Oct 07, 2000 12:00AM
, Oct 07, 2000 12:00AM
Dear Jane,
You are saying the right things, but don't expect them to have much influence. Your daughter would benefit from participating in a social skills group, either through her school or through a local child guidance clinic or behavioral health department. In such groups, while children are engaging in various types of interaction, professionals intervene to help them learn alternatives to their behavior and to receive feedback about successful and unsuccessful types of behavior.
You are saying the right things, but don't expect them to have much influence. Your daughter would benefit from participating in a social skills group, either through her school or through a local child guidance clinic or behavioral health department. In such groups, while children are engaging in various types of interaction, professionals intervene to help them learn alternatives to their behavior and to receive feedback about successful and unsuccessful types of behavior.
