6 yr old acting out sexually

[Kristibee]

I am in desperate need of someone's help.  My 6 year old daughter has been acting out sexually now for 2 or more years.  She takes kids into the bathroom and persuades them to get undressed.  Her and another boy in school now have been caught regularly touching each other.  She also has just been caught with a 4 year old boy on top of her, with their bottoms off.  

Two years ago, the daycare reported to social services that she was doing this with other children.  Social services came and took my daughter out of our home until she was checked by a certified physician for molestation, or sexual activity.  It came up negative.  The problem with this now is the father to my daughter has moved on and is in another relationship, and I am in a new relationship and have been for 5.5 years.  So when this stuff happens in school, and is still happening to this day, her father is very disturbed by it.  

I've tried everything to get her to stop this, I am SO angry, but don't know why it all started and am looking for answers.  That would be all I need is for someone else to phone social services and she would be gone for good.

Please help!!!

[margypops]

i think some counselling is in order here, as it has been going on for a while, supervision also so she is not alone going into bathrooms with other children, make sure the teachers are aware and go with them to the bathroom. Is there any possibility that she could have been a victim herself have you checked out all avenues. Some help is needed here so ask for some counselling to get to the bottom of it whilst she is very young.

[Kaydey]

I have to agree with mary...counseling is needed.  Not just the 'regular' counseling, but in-depth behavioural counseling.  A 6 yr old should not know those things or do those things.... unless they were taught to do them or have been violated in that way.

It is an extremely difficult thought to digest...  I do know. I have been there with my daughter and her dad.  Makes you want to just break down and cry and pretend the world doesn't exist.

Anger is not going to help her.  She doesn't understand what she is doing anymore than you understand what she is doing.   She has been taught this.

As I said before ..   extreme 'in-depth- counseling (which might mean her going away to a youth center for a little while) or if you are blessed, you can find a therapist who specializes in this in your community. And you need counseling also.   It is absolutely necessary!!

Unless we have been where our daughters have been we will never understand, but we can try to see life through their eyes as much as possible.

I keep you in my thoughts.....blessings

[supermomma531]

I agree with the other 2 comments made. Everyone needs counseling to the extreme. In depth counseling for her especially. A child psychiatrist would probably be the best shot at it. Good luck

[vicster552]

You must be out of your mind with worry! This sort of thing doesn't happen regularly so it is professional help which is needed. My advice to you is to seek help for both of you before it is reported again as it could be out of your control before you know it. I am very suprised this problem as gone on for so long. Your child needs help. Speak to your family Doctor straight away.

Good luck Kristibee.