Hi there. Yes, agree with sandman. That is the key question here. And don't go down the road of assuming your son has mental health issues at 6. MANY kids at 6 struggle with behavior and particularly with the transition from kindergarten to first grade. My younger son had a regression at this same point due to internal stress. He was having major fits, out of character behavior up and downs, and wet the bed at night for a week (when I contacted his doctor). The determination was that he was A. stressed from an all day experience when he hadn't had it before. B. stressed from increased demands on him. and C. too tired.
We made some minor changes and things got better.
In addition to the usual first grade change issues that kids deal with, your son also gave up the security of friends and home that he knew. He is probably very stressed. Kids show that often through behavior.
I agree he needs loving guidance to overcome this and much patience.
But as sandman said, a really important question is how he is doing in school.
Real important question. Is this also happening at school?
He sleeps through the night. Yes 2 different men. However his bio dad has never been in the picture and he has never met him. Yes we went though a rough patch as marriages sometimes do. However we attempted to shield him from as much as we could.
I agree with Rockrose that you need help for him and need to stop punishing him. What you want to do is to change his behavior.
However, the really, really, really important question is - is this also going on at school? If it is happening in both places, then that involves doing some different things. If it is only happening at home, then in many ways it is easier to change and we can help with that too.
By the way, how well does he sleep at night? Does he go right to sleep, and sleep through the night getting at least 10 hours?
So your husband and his biological dad are two different men? And you and your husband had a bad patch and fought often, but now you aren't fighting so much?
And now you've moved into a new neighborhood, away from his friends?
(I'm really asking for clarification if I understood you)
This boy is in chaos. Additionally, his father is mentally ill.
I think you need to seek help for this child, and stop punishing him. He's in complete chaos.