6yr old daughter still soiling her pants

[timelordess]

My 6yr old daughter has never managed to get the whole toilet training thing down. She wee's on the toilet, but that's it. She also has a major temper, where she can have around 8-12 tantrums a day, that includes throwing, hitting, biting and breaking toys, but never her own toys. Most of the time getting her to eat is impossoble too. I've made charts that show she's gone through day's at a time on just 1 apple.  The soiling, although it's alway's been there, has progressivly got worse, as has her behaviour.  She's now onto stealing things too.  
I also have a 7 yr old son and a 18 month old daughter, both show no similarities to the middle one. We've obviously been told that it's regression due to the younger one, but this was all going on before she was around (even before my pregnancy).  We've used behaviour charts, ignoring, applauding good behaviour, time outs (which cause more trouble).  She also started using 'sorry' as an excuse to carry on with her behaviour or soiling.  We have NEVER chastised her for actually pooping her pants, but do for not telling anyone, or lieing about it - she has on regular occasions, said she hasn't soiled, but when checked she has.  
She has been under a pead for the last 6 months, who originally thought she had bowel retention and overflow, so put her on laxatives, which only made the problem worse. In the last week, this pead has decided that she is to be referred to CAMHS for an Autism/ADHD assesment. When asked politly to go to bed, she'd rather scream in your face and hold on to the sofa, then listen to you. Any form of asking her to do ANYTHING means she'll scream, shout, yell, kick and scratch.

Is there anything in the interrim that we could possibly do, as we can not afford to keep replacing pants, clothes and bedding !

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

No, there are no interim measures. She clearly requires evaluation because she is displaying the signs of emotional disorder. By the way, the pediatrician's guidance may have been quite accurate. Such condiitons require several months of regimen of laxative and/or stool softener, so perhaps the intervention did not reach a conclusion.

[cmdunn1972]

My 6-yr old boy is having similar issues, including soiling himself at home and at school, and having a short, violent temper. Apples have a laxative effect, and I'm noticing he soils himself more when he eats an apple for breakfast on an empty stomach. I plan to start with limiting fruits which have a laxative effect, including fruit juices, and see if that helps solve the problem.

[timelordess]

Thank you :) xoxo