7 year old boy needs to be remind every day of what he needs to do.

I'm concerned my 7-year old son needs to be reminded every day of what he needs to do.  For example: ( come eat breakfast, brush your teeth, don't wear the same cloth to school etc....) When I asked him what homework he  needs to do -he does not know, I have to repeat everyday the samethings over and over again, he does not even remember to eat his lunch sometimes.  When seeing him play soccer for instance, he loses focus on the field (he is always looking around himself and not at the game), is constantly distracted  and doesn't seem to listen to the coaches instructions. I don't see any of his teammates acting in the same manner. At home, he has a hard time listening and following instructions, we have to tell him several times to do  something.  The teacher sent me a note (Not following instructions, not paying attention in class, needs to be reminded every time) He never has had serious discipline issues at school or at home  However, in seeing a lot of the other boys in his class, my son appears very soft  and in another world. He told me that a classmate called him a "whimp" and another called him "slow".  He also makes negatives comments about him for example ( if he does not get first place he will say "I'm not good at anything, I will always loose, or the other day he was playing with his 4 year old brother and accidentaly hit his borther-his brother cried and he said (OH! no I killed my borther)  or what is more scary before he just to said "I'm going to died or I will kill myself" I told him that I did not wanted to hear that and it took me several times of the same discussion to stop those comments I haven't heard him saying that lately) However he is very smart, loves to read, learn facts, he is very good with lenguages (He is fully bilingual Spanish-English, he is learning Mandarin and Greek) Loves sports, loves to play with his younger brothers.  Please advise . Would you consider the above behavior typical for a 7 year old boy ?

[babygirl6152]

what sort of grades does he make?

even though the teacher says he does not listen and follow directions, if he makes good grades, he may just need more consistent schedules- at home and school- would you say things are fairly consistent at home- even 2 year olds really thrive on that-

try not reminding him of things and just calmly ask "what do we do next"? WAIT for him to answer- you are making him think this way-
Try not to get in a hurry and tell him he needs to think one thing at a time and WAIT for him to tell  you what to do next that way he won't rely on you for constant reminders but yes it is somewhat normal......  some kiddos need reminders til age 7, some 12, some 18.

the sports- a light bulb turns on around 5th grade usually and a boy that's been playing with the ants in the outfield suddenly goes to a game and wants to WIN- it happens that fast lots of times- overnight