7 year old girl humps another child

[llstreve]

I do not have children but just began dating someone with a 7 year old child. They both came with me for a weekend out of town with my family and neices. We all went swimming and after I began to run their bath.  They were all undressed and waiting in the bathroom while I was getting the water ready. The daughter of my boyfriend began to thrust her hips and began laughing thinking it was funny, I didn't say anything thinking at the time not a big deal. But then she grabbed my niece in a bear hug tummy to tummy both of them naked and began to hump her and I had to pull my boyfriend's daughter away from my neice. I have not been able to stop worrying about this and don't know if I should say anything to my boyfriend or my brother the father of my niece. My neice did not seemed to be affected but she is only six and doesn't know any better.

The next morning I thought the girls were all playing in the bedroom together I went in to get them to go and get breakfast when only two of the girls were there.  The other two were in the bathroom and when I knocked on the door they seemed to panick a bit saying were going to the bathroom, When my boyfriend's daughter came out my niece was pulling up her skirt and then my boyfriend's daughter shut the door and paige washed her hands as if she just went to the bathroom. My neice came out of the bathroom with her same innocent smile and I chalked it up to being paranoid.  Maybe I am paranoid but I don't have kids and don't know what is normal.

I do know that the boyfriend of my boyfriends child's mother is not one that everyone respects, but I am not sure quite why. He has said that many people don't approve of him.  

Should I be worried?  Please help

[koukla29]

I don't think it is a bad idea to bring it up to your boyfriend - because he is her father and should be aware of her behavior.  As a parent, I would want to know.  That way he can talk to her about good touch and bad touch.  It doesn't have to be a big deal at this point because it sounds like play, however, you can monitor this in the future.  If the behavior becomes more explicit in nature, it could be a sign of something serious.  However, it does not sound alarming at this point.  Just keep an eye out - never hurts.

[RockRose]

It sounds like she lives in an extremely sexualized environment - both her father and her mother have sexual relationships and she must see a lot of passion going on around her and think that behaving that way is normal,  maybe.

[Cleveland Mom]

I agree with Rock Rose.  This little girl is demonstrating sexualized behavior and is acting out.  She is acting out what she is witnessing.  A child should not be witnessing sexual behavior of adults.  Certainly, kissing and hugging among adults, romantic partners is fine.  However, the kind of behavior i.e. humping another child indicates that she may have witnessed more than a kiss between two adults in a romantic relationship or perhaps at the worst she has been sexually abused by somebody.  You should talk to your boyfriend about his dtr.'s behavior.  Sex play among kids is not uncommon but it seems as if this little girl may witnesed something she should not have or that she may have been sexually abused.   Best wishes...

[llstreve]

I talked with my boyfriend but I don't believe he is going to say anything to his daughter, when I talked to him I also found out that her mother is living with a man that is her boyfriend and almost killed his last girlfriend.  Now I am seeing things from another light and not sure what to do.  If I should report the situation to child services, get out of the relationship??  The thing is he got her prgnant after three months of dating her, an oopps. I have my boyfriend's parents and circle of friends and they are all the sweetest people the kind of in laws you dream of and I am so comfortable with all of his friends, and honestly he is the sweetest guy I have ever met.  Just freaked out that he is not doing everything in his power to protect his baby girl?? what do you think, and thank you for the honest comments I feel the same way and intend on talking with my brother as soon as he and my neice get back from there vaction.  

[socgirl]

I agree with many of the other posters on here.  Definitely speak to your brother about what his daughter was exposed to.  I'm not  a parent yet, but if my child were exposed to something like this, I would want to know.  Also, it sounds like your boyfriend is in a little bit of denial...which may not be uncommon.  It sounds like his family is really supportive, etc..so maybe talk to him again and explain the seriousness of the situation.  I don't think any of us on this forum is saying your BF's daighter has definitely been sexually abused, but it is a possibility.  More than likely, she has witnessed this behavior somewhere...either "accidentally" seeing two adults in her life doing this or perhaps she has been exposed to pornography, etc.  Either way, this warrants further attention.  If your boyfriend is uncomfortable talking to his daughter about this behavior, have you asked him if he's comfortbale with someone else talking about this with his daighter (with him present), either you or her pediatrician, etc?  I know when my parents sat me down a very, very, long time ago to have that chat about the birds and the bees, good touch, bad touch, etc...my father became very flustered and could hardly get a word out.  my mother did most of the talking.  my point being, that sometimes parents (it seems particulalrly fathers) have a tough time talking about sexual issues, etc with their daughters.  Good luck...it's a tough situation.