7 year old sleeps with his mom

My wife and i have been seperated for about 2 yrs and she has been pushing the limits with the sleeping situation for my son.  For the last couple of months he has been having trouble staying in his room at night.  I have found out that he sleeps in the bed with his mother.  How do i get the message across to my X that this is not normal and should stop.

[ilovemykidz]

my son is four and he wont go to sleep by himself.. and if i lay with him until he does fall asleep you can almost garentee and by between 4-5 am. he will be in our bed. this is a really hard habit to break.. i get up every time he comes into our bed and put him back in his own bed and now its gotten to the point where he will sleep all night by himself but still wont fall sleep by himself.

maybe the problem is she is afraid to sleep by herself and she has let him sleep with her for so long that he thinks its natural.. when my husband and i split up it was only for a short while but my son slept with me every nite at first because i didnt have a bed for him and eventually i figured out that i slept better with him because i had gotten so used to sleeping with my husband so thats where he continued to sleep until we got back together. i no if shes a typical female she wont admit that the child is sleeping with her because of her own fear of being alone. but you should try explaning to her that the child needs to sleep in his own bed.