7 year old touching and initiating sexual behavior with 3 year old

My little boy is 3 years old and looks up to his 7 year old first cousin. They play together a lot of the time. Lately the 7 year old has been offering to take my little boy to the bathroom and "help" him do many things. I also have a demanding 18 month old. I allowed my little boy to get help from his cousin. I regret this and feeling upset at this situation. They were in the bathroom together the other day and maybe 5 minutes went by. To make a long story short I realized they were in there too long together and by that time they were coming out. They began sneaking around and whispering and the 7 yr old was telling my little boy to go to areas of the house where I was not. I kept following them and I walked into the play area, in a corner, my nephew's penis was hard and he was telling my little boy to take his pants down. My nephew also admitted that he stuck his finger to my little boy's anus, and he made him do the same to him. This came out after repeated different "stories". Also my son told me parts of it. Is this normal? I am feeling this is not and and very worried my nephew has been doing things to my son for awhile! I just cannot let my mind rest. I separated them. I don't want my little boy to play with my nephew anymore! Is this too strict? What should I do?

[red1997]

Are you serious?  Keep them away from each other.  None of that is appropriate and you should talk your three year old about that being wrong.  Your story makes me sick to my stomach.  Something has been done to your child's cousin and/or he has seen something and he needs help.  Both of the little boys should seek some professional help now.  Good luck...keep them away from each other and protect your child.

[danimom07]

I haven't slept since this happened!! I feel awful! My mom is a counselor and she said to just watch them closely but I cannot watch them every minute of every day! I feel like he has been abusing my child! I know he is just 7 but I feel he should know better than to do it to another child and my little boy is only 3!!  I talked to my son and he will be 4 next month so he talks very openly to me! I told him it was wrong and he understands but what needs to happen to my nephew? I think something but I don't know what? I talked to his parents and he got punishment but is that enough????

[angel143]

Well i need some advice.I made the mistake of telling my 10 yrs old to help me take  sister 2yr old a bath.right away he said i will being busy in the kitchen i thought that would be out of the way.About 5 minutes later..something told me to go check up on them.. the  door was locked i started banging on the door he opened it right away..I asked him why do u have the door locked he said im taking her a bath..i walked away he dried her and changed her still not thinking.that took 2minutes..well that same day i @ night i took her a bath when i was dring her. she mentioned his name and pointed at her private area..and i said what mama what is it..she was just calling out his name i then yelled his name to come here and i told her to repeat it again and she did.well he said no i didnt..having a stupid face, i told him u are not intrtouble but you know ur not suppose to be touching her or anybody else..he said i know..i asked has someone touched u? he said with a stupid face..i said those r ur privates and no one should touch u or ..or nobody only mom and dad or the dr. so, we left it @ that my husband his dad talked to him because u see my husband has custody of his three children he was 4 when i met him and i had one son that is now 9..the 2yr old is both of ours..i have always talked to the about that and safety and predetors..my dtr thank GOD told my mother in law infront of me. i then said yes thats true she told me that too.she mentions once in a while he or my 9 yrs old are not allowed to bath her or change.while im here on my laptop she was sitting next to me just in her panties touching her self over her panties.i asked her what are you doing? she then said his name again showed me the finger and pointed down there. This is crazy i feel..u always think not @ my house. What would be the best for both of them..since then i am very careful with her its SCARY..any advice