7 yo son french kissing younger sister

[worried_for_son101]

My son from a previous encounter who does not live with me full time. He will be 7 this month. The other day when my wife and I were laying in bed our 3 1/2 yo daughter came in the room and told us about "a new game" her brother had taught her; "person sex". she then demonstrated how the "game" was played. she pulled the covers over my wife's head, put her hands on the sides of her face and started gently kissing her on the mouth. then she tried to give her an open mouth kiss. we stopped her and told her that it was very innappropriate (in 3 1/2 yo speak). later my wife told me that our daughter also said that my son shoved his tongue in her mouth. she said that he didn't touch her anywhere but we don't know for sure. the next day she started crying and saying that her brother was going to be mad at her because he told her not to tell and that she would get in trouble. this leads us to believe that he knew it was wrong and was not simlpy innocent exploration. currently he is not coming to our house and being kept away from our daughter. are we overreacting? I don't want to expose my daughter to something that she shouldn't have experienced until she was old enough to have a boyfriend. we are talking to his therapist and have an appointment made to sit down with his mother and step father and talk this out. my wife is treating this like he molested our daughter and I am torn between my love for both children and  the meaning of the situation. I worry about leaving them alone in a room together ever again. I haven't spoken to my son in a few weeks because I don't know what to say and don't want to avoid the situation either. also i don't want to leave him without proper guidance. I have no idea where he picked this up. we let him watch cartoon movies sometimes and that is it. how do we move on from here?

[gelina]

My son is 7 also n he's starting to kiss other girls at school I don't know what to do..last week he was saying that he saw naked women..I don't know why he saying that if my son is not expost to that, what's going on what do I tell him I already told him its not rite for kids to kiss or for him to talk like that but he keeps on I need hepl!!

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

You have reason to be concerned and the plan to discuss this with the therapist and his mother and stepfather is sound. However, your wife;s framing of the situation as molestation and your not speaking with your or having him over are nto sound reactions. He is only six - he behaved inappropriately, but he is a victim of some form of exposure to sexualized behavior. He is not a monster - he's a child and he needs you and your wife to set good limits, lethim know that what he did was unacceptable, but he also needs your love and support.