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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
8 Yr. old involved in sexual behaviors
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
8 Yr. old involved in sexual behaviors
by PLEH ESAELP, May 18, 2007 12:00AM
My son is 8 yrs. old and has been involved in some sexual behaviors. The first time was when he was 5 and him and another boy his age were doing something (i don't know what), but it was inappropriate sexual behavior. My son and a boy 2 years younger just had an incident.I talked to my son by himself and he told me they kissed and touched each others penis with their mouths....(that is hard to say). He told me he was gay...I told him that this was not his fault and that boys get curous, but that he can not touch or be touched that way. He is a loving boy and I love him with all my heart, but I feel in this case my son was the one that started it and I am scared. How do I handle this? I have already scheduled an appointment with someone, but I need other mothers words. Background- His father and I are not together anymore. He used to go there everyother weekend all weekend...now it's one night a weekend. He bought my son a poster of a girl in a bikini for Christmas, let him watch inappropriate movies before, and let him listen to naughty songs. He also refers to woman as hot and whatever else, and now my son does. My son's mind is to sexually mature for his age and I just don't know what to do. My son is also ADHD and on a Daytrana Patch.
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., May 18, 2007 12:00AM
, May 18, 2007 12:00AM
You are doing the correct thing by having your son see a therapist. It is no wonder some of this behavior is occurring, in light of the broader context and the irresponsible behavior of his father. Part of the clinician's intervention might be some contact with your son's father to see if he can see the errors of his ways and begin to act in a more responsible fashion as a parent. If that situation does not change, it is going to continue to pose problems for your son and make it very difficult for him to do better. While it is too early to know, if your son's father cannot act more appropriately and responsibly, it might be necessary to curtail any unsupervised contact betwee them.
