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Child Behavior (Expert Forum)
8 year old and sex
Answered by
Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D. - Child and Adolescent Psychotherapy, Family Therapy, Crisis Intervention
Harvard Vanguard Medical Associates
This forum is for questions and support regarding child behavior issues such: Child Discipline (behavior management), Normal Child Development, Parent-Child Communications, Social Development
8 year old and sex
by CMAN368, Dec 07, 2002 12:00AM
My wife and I had a shock last night. Our son went over to a friends house to sleepover. Around 9:00 we received a phone call from the other boy's father letting us know that he checked on the boys and found them both naked and playing a game called the penis game. This involved both children touching each other's privates and what they called "sucking each other's penis'". We spoke to our son about this and he said that he learned about this by watching TV. We explained to him that he is not to be touching other people's privates or having other people touch his privates because they do not like that. We are searching for a way to address this more and concerned that this is a problem and we need to see someone about this. This was the third time this has happened, but the first time any of the parents knew about it. My son seems to view this like stealing something from a store. Is this good or bad?
Doctor's Answer
by Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D., Dec 09, 2002 12:00AM
, Dec 09, 2002 12:00AM
What I would inquire about is his reply that he had learned about this behavior via television. How could that have happened, if indeed what he is saying is true? You are doing the right thing by clearly setting limits on such behavior, and he likely does not need to see anyone about it. But I wouldn't let it drop, either. More discussion about the circumstances would be sensible, so that you can learn how this came about, where and when it has occurred, what does he think about it, etc. It's OK if he regards the behavior as wrong, because it is. He should not be shamed about it, but also you should express no tolerance for it. Otherwise, he'll be confused. While you are talking with your son about the importance of not touching other people inapproapriately and not allowing himself to be touched, at the same time you can talk about how sexual behavior later in life is a normal way for people who have a loving relationship to express their closeness. But a little of this conversation goes a long way with a child so young. It is sensible to begin to address with him basic issues about sexual development.
Member Comments (1)
by littlejack, Dec 04, 2009 04:05PM
To: Jack
My name is jack i am 5 year old and i have sex and suck is penis and he suck me my penis is my friend he is 7 year old boy wot should i do
by littlejack, Dec 04, 2009 04:06PM
To: Jack
My name is jack i am 5 year old and i have sex and suck is penis and he suck me my penis is my friend he is 7 year old boy wot should i do
