We are having trouble managing our 8 year old son. He is constantly antagonizing one or more members of the family, refuses to follow house rules and at times exhibits poor impulse control. He tries to be sneaky and lies to try and cover his behavior. My husband and I have both tried talking to him, he has been put on restriction,(lost his treats, TV, playtime with other children, allowance) for as long as 2 days. We have tried rewarding his cooperative behavior. He has been disruptive in classes. He thinks everything is a joke. With every request of him he asks "Why?". When asked why he misbehaves he has stated. "I don't know", "because it is fun" or "I like to be in trouble sometimes". He does not seem to connect that his behavior causes consequences...he blames anyone else involved for his being in trouble, and has said that my husband and I are mean to him. The same rules apply to his 10 year old brother and 8 year old twin sister, but he feels like we are being unfair to him. We are considering counseling for him...but do not want him labeled with a slew of "disorders" if he is behaving like a normal 8 year old boy on some level. We are diligent about providing him with releases for his physical energy and try to make sure he is challenged intellectually as he seems to be very bright and is very inquisitive. He is a very physical and kinesthetic child and we try to provide him with opportunities to channel that energy. Our goal is not to break his spirit, but he does need to learn that there are rules for everyone and his behavior and choices will have consequences. Thoughts?