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8 year old talk/acts like a baby
My partner's niece talks like a baby.I don't know if she is doing that to be cute or for some other reason. When a train goes by she says, "chooo-chooo" a few times over and over again. She doesn't know when to be calm or quite when two adults are talking. She says mommy or daddy in a childlike/baby way. I believe children should act like children, and most parents do, so when its time to teach them to act like an "adult" its too late. She gets punished when she misbehaves but few minutes later her mom is cuddling her and even burping her like a child. Is this wrong? I'm 22 now, and known them for 2 years, and it hasn't changed. She gets punished four times a week now, she hits her mom back even if she thinks she is being funny. For them its ok since family is never going to accept their own mistakes. I have no doubt that she is a smart girl like any other child can be. She has a couple of friends, but mostly she hangs out with adults (mostly familty) since she gets the attention and praise for any little thing she does. But mostly the problem is not personal (with me), but it can be annoying most of the times. She (and also her family) drinks lots of cokes/sprite/sodas and eats candy a lot. I think even if she eats one candy she'll start getting all
rambunctious. I don't know if I'm exaggerating, but I try to be nice (she went bike riding with us) so she can hang out with her uncle, but I cannot stand her baby-like voice. I'm I wrong, I know many parents have different ways to raise a child; there's no right way but there has to be a better way.
rambunctious. I don't know if I'm exaggerating, but I try to be nice (she went bike riding with us) so she can hang out with her uncle, but I cannot stand her baby-like voice. I'm I wrong, I know many parents have different ways to raise a child; there's no right way but there has to be a better way.
I also have the same situation and i have 3 bestfriends and were all close but one of our bestfriends who acts/talks like a baby and by that i mean she talks normally sometimes but when she talks , she talks in a baby ish tone and in a slow way ? to her parents, friends,strangers(when she compliments them), or when she asks a staff in the mall, and people give her a weird look for talking that way, she's also very very clingy i mean sometimes i dont mind but sometimes its too much i get annoyed, i dont tell her if im annoyed tho cus idont wanna be rude and ruin her or smth but especially when im in a bad mood it gets worse too, we also hve this problem when she's too open to her mom, she accidentally spills a few of our secrets even when we have an argument she tells her mom this and that happened, idk if people do that, but the thing is she's 16 so idk if thats normal but for me i dont i just need more explanation to clarify why , idk if its the caffeine or smth else
Hi my daughter still talks baby-ish and it's starting to get frustrating.
I know where it came from which is the hardest thing. Her day care centre had "teachers" from India who barely spoke English and would punish the children for saying "we are digging in the sand" the "teachers" would yell "Why are you DUGGING ON the sand for? It's Dugging, stupid idiots! dug, dug dugging! You say "I digged", then "I dugging."
I took her out of the centre but four years on a d she still hasn't learnt to say the correct term or word no matter how many times she is corrected or told by others.
She's now getting teased for saying "I maked it"instead of "I made it".
When she's nervous it shows in her language.
I can't blame the child care centre entirely, my daughter is the only child in our family and sometimes when she can't get her way she acts like a baby and her speech changes to baby babble or grunting/squeaking/mewing like a kitten to "look and sound cute" so she'll get her way. It doesn't often work but sometimes it does. She's often told "you have to use your words so mummy/nanna/pop/aunty knows what you want, but still she doesn't and sometimes gets her way after that.
We all have to be consistent!
It'll take a bit of work and some ground rules. Kids need to know their boundaries and where the border is so they will test us!
I hope she grows out of that soon though!!
I know where it came from which is the hardest thing. Her day care centre had "teachers" from India who barely spoke English and would punish the children for saying "we are digging in the sand" the "teachers" would yell "Why are you DUGGING ON the sand for? It's Dugging, stupid idiots! dug, dug dugging! You say "I digged", then "I dugging."
I took her out of the centre but four years on a d she still hasn't learnt to say the correct term or word no matter how many times she is corrected or told by others.
She's now getting teased for saying "I maked it"instead of "I made it".
When she's nervous it shows in her language.
I can't blame the child care centre entirely, my daughter is the only child in our family and sometimes when she can't get her way she acts like a baby and her speech changes to baby babble or grunting/squeaking/mewing like a kitten to "look and sound cute" so she'll get her way. It doesn't often work but sometimes it does. She's often told "you have to use your words so mummy/nanna/pop/aunty knows what you want, but still she doesn't and sometimes gets her way after that.
We all have to be consistent!
It'll take a bit of work and some ground rules. Kids need to know their boundaries and where the border is so they will test us!
I hope she grows out of that soon though!!
I know this is a bit of an older post but decided to respond anyway:
I have an 8 year old that does the same thing - baby talks, though it does annoy me I just figured it was a trait of my own childhood. I was made fun of a lot for it, but I always felt like the outcast anyway. It isn't sonething that someone can control- I wish I could change it, but for me and my daughter, it is a nervous habit like biting nails etc I still as an adult have weird habits and when getting nervous my voice reverts to a child like voice and I don't mean to annoy people. They thought at one time I had adhd, social anxiety around people and might possibly be mild autistic but I'm very smart in intelligence (mild autism people are not affected in intelligence but have a hard time socially fitting in) and have weird quirks pacing, rocking, chewing on things, spinning objects, baby talk etc. Each person is different that may have mild autism / Asperger's syndrome and autism is a spectrum from severe to mild (high functioning /slightly affected). The times when I find my oldest 8 year old doing that in a store I tell her "no baby talk right now- only in the car" and tell her places she can and can't do that and if she gets the urge to do it to do it alone. It does work for her she will laugh and say OK mom! And it works for us! She sometimes does it out of excitement, being nervous or stressed, etc. As for wetting pants, my youngest daughter 7 still does that from time to time and I was frustrated at wits end about it and the dr told me it was a medical problem. I feel bad as I thought it was just a stubborn child or laziness but guess not! It is hard as a mom knowing I was hard on her but I can't change the past, now that I know it's something medical I have said I am sorry and reminded her for pottying say every 30 minutes instead of every hour since she would pee her pants a lot she has gotten better but with her over active bladder and enderesis she tends not being about to hold her pee in as long.. It helped done with the bathroom thing but she just goes to the bathroom more often than some people. :)
I have an 8 year old that does the same thing - baby talks, though it does annoy me I just figured it was a trait of my own childhood. I was made fun of a lot for it, but I always felt like the outcast anyway. It isn't sonething that someone can control- I wish I could change it, but for me and my daughter, it is a nervous habit like biting nails etc I still as an adult have weird habits and when getting nervous my voice reverts to a child like voice and I don't mean to annoy people. They thought at one time I had adhd, social anxiety around people and might possibly be mild autistic but I'm very smart in intelligence (mild autism people are not affected in intelligence but have a hard time socially fitting in) and have weird quirks pacing, rocking, chewing on things, spinning objects, baby talk etc. Each person is different that may have mild autism / Asperger's syndrome and autism is a spectrum from severe to mild (high functioning /slightly affected). The times when I find my oldest 8 year old doing that in a store I tell her "no baby talk right now- only in the car" and tell her places she can and can't do that and if she gets the urge to do it to do it alone. It does work for her she will laugh and say OK mom! And it works for us! She sometimes does it out of excitement, being nervous or stressed, etc. As for wetting pants, my youngest daughter 7 still does that from time to time and I was frustrated at wits end about it and the dr told me it was a medical problem. I feel bad as I thought it was just a stubborn child or laziness but guess not! It is hard as a mom knowing I was hard on her but I can't change the past, now that I know it's something medical I have said I am sorry and reminded her for pottying say every 30 minutes instead of every hour since she would pee her pants a lot she has gotten better but with her over active bladder and enderesis she tends not being about to hold her pee in as long.. It helped done with the bathroom thing but she just goes to the bathroom more often than some people. :)
Talking and Acting like a Baby Vs Infantilism
If a child is just talking like a baby then it is either a speach inpedimeant, psycological or to sound cute. If a Child is talking like a baby and acting like a baby, but not wetting are pooping themselfs or wanting to wear diapers, then it is most likely attention seeking.
If a child is talking and acting like a baby, and is also wetting and pooping themselfs and asking for diapers, this is an early sign of Infantilism.
In this case you should follow the advice i gave on the following topic "http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Child-Behavior/why-does-my-10-year-old-son-still-poop-in-pants/show/521820";
If a child is just talking like a baby then it is either a speach inpedimeant, psycological or to sound cute. If a Child is talking like a baby and acting like a baby, but not wetting are pooping themselfs or wanting to wear diapers, then it is most likely attention seeking.
If a child is talking and acting like a baby, and is also wetting and pooping themselfs and asking for diapers, this is an early sign of Infantilism.
In this case you should follow the advice i gave on the following topic "http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Child-Behavior/why-does-my-10-year-old-son-still-poop-in-pants/show/521820";
i hear what ur saying. my girlfriends 10 year old son actually talks in a baby voice 80 percent of the time. quite annoyng. and also throws baby tantrums when getting in trouble. will lay on the ground and cry for hours until my girlfriend apologizes for punishing him. and by punish i mean tell him to go to his room or something. maybe u guys could help my out too.
My sister is the most little annoying baby I've ever seen. And she's 9! Shes the exact discription u just appointed. She has a terrible baby voice and she gets other people to do thing for her cause she "can't" do it herself. Like for say opening a door or playin a game. She tattles and is the most annoying little twit on the face of the earth. Again she's only 9. I think there's a problem here because me just listening to her baby like bickering makes me wanna punch something. I cannot stand having to be around her and I'm her brother. I'm 3 years older than her and she infuriated me. She rather does it cause she knows it rally me up or there's something wrong with her mind. What do I do?
My sister is the most little annoying baby I've ever seen. And she's 9! Shes the exact discription u just appointed. She has a terrible baby voice and she gets other people to do thing for her cause she "can't" do it herself. Like for say opening a door or playin a game. She tattles and is the most annoying little twit on the face of the earth. Again she's only 9. I think there's a problem here because me just listening to her baby like bickering makes me wanna punch something. I cannot stand having to be around her and I'm her brother. I'm 3 years older than her and she infuriated me. She rather does it cause she knows it rally me up or there's something wrong with her mind. What do I do?
My sister is the most little annoying baby I've ever seen. And she's 9! Shes the exact discription u just appointed. She has a terrible baby voice and she gets other people to do thing for her cause she "can't" do it herself. Like for say opening a door or playin a game. She tattles and is the most annoying little twit on the face of the earth. Again she's only 9. I think there's a problem here because me just listening to her baby like bickering makes me wanna punch something. I cannot stand having to be around her and I'm her brother. I'm 3 years older than her and she infuriated me. She rather does it cause she knows it rally me up or there's something wrong with her mind. What do I do?
I have a step child that comes to are house peas her pants and talks like a baby at 8 years old it drives me nuts
p.s. You also might planning visits with her that revolve around helping and doing "big girl" things--try giving her responsibilities that baby's don't typically have when she's with you. Have her help cook (cut carrots, stir the spaghetti sauce) and teach her how to do laundry and clean, have her help wash the car, etc., all the while reinforcing how grown up she is and how she's very helpful. Whenever she uses a normal voice, reinforce it by telling her how nice she sounds (maybe even say, "You sound like Hannah Montana when you use your big girl voice!"). Just keep encouraging her to act her age. If nothing else, you may grow fond of her and maybe it won't be so annoying when her mother encourages her bad behavior.
LOL! Don't let them drive you to drink (or do drugs)!
You aren't whiny. It's not normal, but who is really normal? You are dealing with in-law issues like the rest of us! And yes, I can talk about my goofy family all I want, but my husband better just smile and nod occasionally! ;)
You put up with the package (and family is a package in most cases) because you love someone. You ignore, avoid, bite your tongue. And occasionally move 3000 miles away from both families! LOL!
Hang in there...keep gently pointing things out (so he's not taken advantage of) and helping him to see the situation without making him angry and wanting to write off his family. Families are important (even somewhat dysfunctional ones)--and as long as there's no abuse or addiction, we all just have to deal with what comes with the package because fortunately most people are multifaceted and you can always see some good even when the bad seems to overwhelm at times.
You aren't whiny. It's not normal, but who is really normal? You are dealing with in-law issues like the rest of us! And yes, I can talk about my goofy family all I want, but my husband better just smile and nod occasionally! ;)
You put up with the package (and family is a package in most cases) because you love someone. You ignore, avoid, bite your tongue. And occasionally move 3000 miles away from both families! LOL!
Hang in there...keep gently pointing things out (so he's not taken advantage of) and helping him to see the situation without making him angry and wanting to write off his family. Families are important (even somewhat dysfunctional ones)--and as long as there's no abuse or addiction, we all just have to deal with what comes with the package because fortunately most people are multifaceted and you can always see some good even when the bad seems to overwhelm at times.
haha yep thats how it is. Kinda complicated, but I try not to dramatize it. I can't stand that, maybe that's why I don't like them, it seems that they love to suffer or something. He seems to not like the whole spoil thing NOW, I think he finally understood how I and other people see it. It takes a stranger to point out whats wrong with you. You know what, I think he doesn't like to be with her by himself, and when he is he tells me that she was calm, either that or he's lying or he doesn' have anyone telling him how she's acting, lol. I do not know lol. I try to keep away from them, but when I am there it seems that I can't stand it. It's a battle of who's louder. My neck hurts trying to look at who's talking lol (which they all do at the same time, except my partner). You know, the father of the girl is different. He's calm. The problem is the mom. To be honest I don't know what to do, its not really my problem, I just can't stand it lol. And I try to be a nice person, you know, but there are people that just... ahhh. You know, before "coming" into their lifes my partner didn't have anyone that told him what was wrong with them. That, and I believe I stole their "beck-and-call" person. So I know there's something going deep within them even if they tell him otherwise. They talk mean, really mean things about everyone, even the girl says "hate." They kind of calmed down on the hate thing though. They hate/hated everyone, but my partner told them not to say that anymore. Believe me if i had the means to get drugs (which I wouldn't) but if I did, I would get high before spending time with this type of child and/or people.
P.S. Thanks for the comments, keep them coming, I'll try to answer them. I want to know if this behavior is wrong or that I'm wrong or just whiny. If you have any problems just ask, I'm no expert but it seems to help when someone is going throught the same thing. Plus I just joined the site, so I don't want to delete my account yet.lol.
P.S. Thanks for the comments, keep them coming, I'll try to answer them. I want to know if this behavior is wrong or that I'm wrong or just whiny. If you have any problems just ask, I'm no expert but it seems to help when someone is going throught the same thing. Plus I just joined the site, so I don't want to delete my account yet.lol.
Ok...gotcha on the relationship thing. So your partner finds his niece's baby talk endearing, too? Ugh. Not good. I was going to suggest that if you gently talk to him and say, "I know you love her and I want to love her the way you love her, too...can we work together to make outings fun for the three of us so I can really get to appreciate what a sweet, loving little girl she is?" Then maybe suggest that the two of you ban together and say, "I'm sorry...we don't understand you when you talk like that...can you use your big girl voice?" I know that won't resolve the issue when you are all together with the family, but maybe having more people around will diffuse the situation a bit...and maybe if she gets used to using her big girl voice with you and your partner, it will spill over to when you are together in family situations. I know, I know...maybe not likely, but it seems like it's the only option besides telling your partner that he needs some special one-on-one time with his niece and avoiding being with them when he has her.
I dated a guy with a child and the guy spoiled the child rotten and it was too much for me. I couldn't do it. I eventually said, "Spend special time alone with your son--he really needs that--and I'll see you on Monday!" (The relationship eventually fizzled, but I just couldn't do it.) Your situation may be easier since your partner isn't the father.
Just always remember to be careful how you word things when talking about her...avoid words like "annoying" and "nails on a chalkboard" (I know it IS like nails on a chalkboard, but you can't say that! ;))
I dated a guy with a child and the guy spoiled the child rotten and it was too much for me. I couldn't do it. I eventually said, "Spend special time alone with your son--he really needs that--and I'll see you on Monday!" (The relationship eventually fizzled, but I just couldn't do it.) Your situation may be easier since your partner isn't the father.
Just always remember to be careful how you word things when talking about her...avoid words like "annoying" and "nails on a chalkboard" (I know it IS like nails on a chalkboard, but you can't say that! ;))
Oh believe me I've evaluated all the possibilities out there. Its a long story, and this isn't the board for it, lol but believe me i've tolerated/tried to like her/them, but it is frustrating, you are right. Its not my place to tell them how to live or whatever, but they should be considerate of others. Their mentality is...I can, but you can't. So they can talk about everyone one, but oh be careful if you say something about them, especially the baby. I have a relationship with her uncle not with them. And it has been difficult since they live so close to him, (its the whole family) about 0.1 miles from him, even less actually, so it is hard because they are there. It even seems that they do it on purpose I don't know lol. No one has told her about how she behaves to her face. I believe everyone notices it, her aunt made a face (kind of a ewww face, if you know what I mean, lol) when she couldn't calm down (jumping/poking) at the hospital when her granny was there at her last moments. Plus if I do discuss it it will be all against one, so it will be a lost "war." It's funny because they will criticise other children that act the same way.
It's now believed that sugar really doesn't really cause hyperactivity. However, eating too much sugar isn't good for anyone.
Regarding the baby talk, it's obviously endearing to her mother--she's obviously still her mother's "baby" and is playing the part at her mother's encouragement--so you may be fighting a losing battle here. Baby talk is working for her--she's getting something out of it and will continue to do it until it no longer works for her. If both parents dislike baby talk in a child, they can work together and continually say, "Use your big girl voice" and refuse to respond unless she is speaking appropriately. But if you think you are going to change that if her mother is not on board with doing so, I think you are just going to end up even more frustrated.
And from the tone of your post, you really dislike this child (not pleasant to admit, but if you're honest, you know that's the case). But if you are going to be with her mother, you are going to have to realize that the child will ALWAYS (or at least SHOULD be) first with her mother and unless her mother stinks and sends her to live with someone else, you will always have the girl in your life (and from the sounds of this situation, she'll be front and center). And believe me, the child can sense when she is disliked or being tolerated, so I would evaluate that and see if it's something you can do--learn to love and accept her completely.
Have you discussed this with her mother? Does she see a problem?
Regarding the baby talk, it's obviously endearing to her mother--she's obviously still her mother's "baby" and is playing the part at her mother's encouragement--so you may be fighting a losing battle here. Baby talk is working for her--she's getting something out of it and will continue to do it until it no longer works for her. If both parents dislike baby talk in a child, they can work together and continually say, "Use your big girl voice" and refuse to respond unless she is speaking appropriately. But if you think you are going to change that if her mother is not on board with doing so, I think you are just going to end up even more frustrated.
And from the tone of your post, you really dislike this child (not pleasant to admit, but if you're honest, you know that's the case). But if you are going to be with her mother, you are going to have to realize that the child will ALWAYS (or at least SHOULD be) first with her mother and unless her mother stinks and sends her to live with someone else, you will always have the girl in your life (and from the sounds of this situation, she'll be front and center). And believe me, the child can sense when she is disliked or being tolerated, so I would evaluate that and see if it's something you can do--learn to love and accept her completely.
Have you discussed this with her mother? Does she see a problem?
She's actually in cheerleading; her mom is the coach. Her grandpa is paying her gymnastics class. It's kind of strange that she still acts the same way. She has an older half-sister who spends every other weekend with them, but eventually she will not want to spend time with them anymore, she can't tag along with her just because she "can't" make friends, plus her half sister is showing signs of not wanting to hang out with them, she can't be a shadow for her whole life. She has everything in her room and more, her mom makes a huge deal that "Santa" doesn't have any "more" money to buy her presents. I'm 22 and don't have that much stuff in my room, maybe i'm jealous, lol, i don't know. I was brought up differently. I don't know, she is ok when her mom is not around... for a while though, then she gets all... It's hard to explain, one needs a mental picture of it or meeting her. Oh and she still sleeps with her parents, she has not slept in her room ever, and when her sister is around she sleeps with her in her room.
her parents are making her the way she is. if her parents arent going to treat her like a 8 year old then she isnt going to act like it. and sodas and junk food arent good for her anyway. she needs to be around kids her own age and not around adults all the time. is she in any kind of programs? or play sports?
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