8 year olds behavior NEED HELP

[worried_mami]

My husband has an 8 year old son and we've been starting to have some problems with him. It all started about 1 or 2 months ago he stole $ from my husbands dads wallet and he was caught later on the day by his mother, she called us to ask us if my husbands dad gave him any money, and i told my husband that she wouldn’t call if it was a little bit of money. So he went to ask his dad and that’s when his dad told my husband that he didnt give him money but he was missing some money from his wallet. So my husbands son had to come over and give the $ back. Well my father-in-law asked why he said, “because he’s never had that much money and he wanted it".
Now, yesterday things got weird. He was playing a game on the computer in my sister-in-laws room and she stepped out to go to the rest room and when she came back her door was locked, i know we where concerned about what was going on in that room. When she knocked he came and opened the door but was turning red like as if he was doing something he shouldn’t. She then was leaving to go eat with her dad they came to find me to tell me they were leaving so i went to go check on the kids, see i have a 22 month old son with my husband and he just wants to be following his brother. so i went to her room and the door once again locked with my son inside with his brother. when he came to open the door he was rushing to take what ever was on the computer off it. i had him get out of the room and go play outside. than later on in the evening we had to go out to the store when we came back my father-in-law was furious, when we asked him what was going on he said that my sis-in-law found some porn on her computer. and we just looked at each other speechless. since i know a little about computer they had me look to see what time all this was searched for well it turned out it was those 5 little min that he locked himself up in the room. Know I don’t think that is normal for an 8 year old to know how to look for those type of thinks on the computer. When he was asked who told him about this he was hesitate and didn’t want to tell his mother or father who showed him this kind of thing but eventually said one of his friends who is older the kid is about 10 years old. I don’t know much about kids because I’m still learning but I don’t think this is good thing for him to be looking for. Can someone please give me advise or my husband advise on how to handle a situation like this. Last night my husband made a comment to me that his son told his mom that he had 5 girlfriends at school, he doesn’t know how he should look at this can you please help!! We really need it.

[RockRose]

I think the mother handled the theft of money very well - having him return it himself.  I think most kids at some point steal something,  hopefully this will put an end to it and he's learned his lesson.

I also think it's quite normal for an 8 year old who's been shown how to look up porn on the computer by an older child,  to try it out himself.     That's why 8 year olds shouldn't have access to a computer that isn't in a very public place all the time.  

If neither of these things become a pattern,  he sounds pretty normal to me.  

[worried_mami]

i know they should have access to computers esp if they have internet on them, that what i tried to explain to my husband. but since he was younger hes dad alway let them have the internet and never really would check up on them because he trusts his kids, my sister in law is only 10 years old and she has her own computer and everything, i guess becasue they trust her to have it as they should shes a very great kid good grades and everything. my step son is good in school as well but has more of a hard time, to stay still after he finishs school. is it right for my husband to want to change schools for his son, to take him to a new environment with new children.

[margypops]

They should have a block on porn on the Computer, it is normal behavior for a child of this age to be curious as he was shown by an older child, did you find out where he was shown it, at whose house ,as although it is normal it would be better for the PC to be either out where all can see it or Blocked. He also needs more supervision he is very young to be allowed to have this much access alone with the Computer,

[worried_mami]

He told us that he was shown this at school, he would tell us the childs name that taught him this,

[worried_mami]

sorry he wouldnt tell us his name beacuse he didnt want any one to get in trouble