9 year old separation anxiety

[amyriekids]

My 9 year old daughter has always had problems separating from me. Last year in 2nd grade we finally thought we were done with it. However the 2nd week of school she started wanting me to stand in line with her before school, then walking her in school. Now she starts crying and screaming Mommy, don't leave me. The principal has had to pull her off me the past two days. Today the principal actually came to the car and got her out for me. My daughter has to sleep with me at night. If I make her sleep in her bed she cries herself to sleep yelling Mommy don't leave me. I try to reassure her I am not going anywhere, I will be there to get her from school. She gets migraine's on Mondays from stessing out so bad. The migraine's get so bad she starts throwing up. This goes on about every other Monday. Tonight she lay in bed with be crying herself to sleep saying she misses me and wants me to walk her in school. She started seeing the school counselor today. I don't know if I should seek medical attention. The staff at the school is being very supportive. I am afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing and making things worse.l

[foam970fed002]

Has she always slept in your bed?

Sounds like dad's not in the picture, am I right? I don't know what happened there, but maybe she's had people in and out of her life, and she's just afraid that you are next. All you can do is be there for her, reassure her that you aren't going anywhere, like you have been.

I bet that it has always been you and her, huh? She's just having trouble with the change, getting older, and having to leave mommy behind all day.  I don't know what the answer is, but just being there for her, like you are

good luck

[jdtm]

Yes, it is time to seek medical attention.  Your child suffers from anxiety and from your description, it sounds to be quite severe.  It appears your daughter is not able to manage her fears without some form of treatment - be it intervention, therapy and/or medication.  Please note that anxiety is highly treatable and I urge you to see your pediatrician or child neurologist or medical person who is experienced with anxiety disorders as soon as possible.  Anxiety does not go away nor does one outgrow it.

[ritahinojosa]

Hi i have a 10 yr old daughter with anxiety and migraines too. she has always been sensitive. we are very close she has just started with feeling as thought i am not going to come home after work crying when i have to work late and fears about the future. i have made an appt with a child therapist to help her battle this right away. i know what you are going thru. good luck