9 year old son anger

[sammysmom73]

My 9 year old son had transformed from my sweet little boy to a monster... he used to come to me and we talked and he loved me. But now he is full of anger he has no respect for authority, he is not having problems at school but I worry that will come if we don't get control of the issues. He is now on a trial prescription of 10mg Focalin XR but that has turned into a fight cause he doesn't want to take it anymore...although he says it does help him at school, he disobeys me, disrespects me, hits his sister, hates everyone. I even found his favorite toys in his room this morning broken and hidden in the closet, why would he break his favorite toys? He won't talk to me says I am mean, gets mad if he doesn't get what he wants, or doesn't get to play with his friends...etc. If everything goes his way he is okay but if not its is terrible.  I have had him tested and nothing major showed up, he hates school, says he is not smart, hates everything that requires him to be responsible for his actions even school projects does not even want to be responsible for them... help  I am loosing my sweet little boy and it scares the hell out of me b/c if I don't take care of it now what could happen as he gets older would kill me. I love him so much but I don't know how to help him?

[Sandman2]

   The only reason that I can think of for him being on Focalin is that he has ADHD.  And ALL of the things that you describe are very typical behaviors for someone who has ADHD.  Has his doctor bothered to tell you anything about ADHD? and what it can do to a child.  Has anyone bothered to explain to him why he hates school and doesn't feel smart?  For that matter has anyone explained to him why his meds are important?  By the way, why doesn't he like the pill?  There are other ways to go if he has trouble swallowing pills.  Also, he is on a pretty low dose and so it probably wears off at home.  Talk to your doctor as this can be fixed.  And there are also longer lasting meds like Vyvanse (which also can sprinkled on food).
   Finally, I would suggest buying the book   "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley. Its about  $10 on Amazon and it will give you a lot of the information you apparently have not gotten.  And you might want to check out this site for more ideas - http://helpguide.org/mental/adhd_add_signs_symptoms.htm

[Life360_Dave]

Hi and sorry what your going through. You might want to change his enviornment as seems to be in habit lifestyle. Change some of his things to make him more excited about life. He needs to channel his anger. Sometimes anger at this age is from frustration. Maybe redesign his bedroom with his suggestions. Or join the cubscouts or karate classes. He has alot of energy that needs to be channeled. A big change in me was to be with nature, fishing and climbing trees. Society today has created a very sterle state of affairs for the upcoming adults with all the texting and websites and i believe children at his age needs to get back to nature. If you ask him what he wants to do, he most likely dosent know so youll have to guide him.