9 year old son masterbating PLEASE HELP!

[momof2boyandgirl]

My nine year old son is in the 3rd grade. At school he is doing very well as usual straight A's. My husband and I caught him masterbating 2 times now.  Is this normal? What should I say to him? Someone told me to not say thats nasty or to stop. I do not know what to say or how to react. PLEASE HELP ME!!

I dont want to react in the wrong way or say the wrong thing to him. My husband is really freaking out about it. I am thinking this is normal but i'm not sure.

[2boysareahandfull]

I have two boys a 9 year old and an 8 year old.  I guess, I wouldn't call it masturbation.  I call it playing with him self.  To me maturbation is what an sexually active person that knows what they are doing.  But, that is just my opinion.  I don't think it is the appropriate deffinition.  Anyway, my boys have "played" with themselves at several stages.  At 2 years old, at 5 years old and at 8 years old.  The reason I am answering this post is because my 8 year old is doing it now.  Although, it had never worried me before because like I said, the way they "play" with themselves doesn't happen like a "sexually expirienced" person would.  They have rubbed on furniture or in a funny way rubbed themselves in the bath.  But, never trying to hide.  When they were 2 I just redirected them to a new activity.  When they were 5 I explained that they shouldn't be doing it infront of others or with others because that was their private area and private areas are only for him and not for sharing with anyone else.  When they did it at 8 years old.  Welll, I am still trying to figure things out....and in the back of my mind I do get worried (freaked Out) and my mind wonders sometimes.  But, I think that as long as they are not doing it as an adult would, that you can be reasured that they have not been abused or seen inappropriate adult activity.  

On a side note, I don't think the the issue here is your husband.  We are all adults that have children with out getting training on it.  We are not perfect nor are we prepared for all that our children will bring now and in the future.  Mothers are naturally better at worring about our children. But follow your feelings. Good luck.

[Rivergypsy]

This is the best answer.

[zachariah405]

nothing is wrong with him lol  im 17 and i started masterbating in the 3rd grade (i was 8 then)  but i didnt know it was a common thing poeple did i thought i had made a huge discovery!  haha just let him do his thing and it will work itself out i promise

[Suze1965]

Yep. Im female and 51. I started at 5 yrs old and thought I Invented it. Its natural...just leave it alone.

[kurmtator]

theres nothing wrong with your husband im sure he just wants to make sure his kid isnt the bored one in the back of the class room beeting off, i personaly didnt start till i was 13 but who wouldnt play with it maybe hes matureing early

[italianbabe33]

My daughter is 12 and she has been mastrubating since she was 5. When she was 5 she would go to a friends house and they would mastrubate not together but they didnt know it was mastrubation.Now shes 12 and mastrubates not with her fingers some how she says she feels only horny when she does that lol but she mastrubates in the shower I think its totally normal people should not flip out over a child expressing themselves in a normal but private way.

[udevilish]

I am dealing with this now, I am sooooo very glad to see I am not the only parent with these concerns. The experts say it is normal, but how do you know what is normal and when it is something you should be worried about?

[sleep96]

ive been doing it since i was 8 im 13 now if u tell him anything tell him to just do it in privacy masterbating is healthy for u and theres nothing wrong its safest sex ever