9 yo daughter different than normal behavior

[sadmomma22]

My daughter recently commented about another child in school who suffered a seizure (she was fine) to a couple of kids (after another boy started the conversation) that this little girl died and is in heaven. The principal called us to tell us about this conversation. My daughter is a "follower" and always has been. I've also just found out that she picks on another little boy in her class. I find this to be very upsetting. She is, what I think to be a very sweet girl, however, I might be missing something. She has a little brother at home who right now looks up to her but who I also don't want to follow in her footsteps per se. She doesn't normally get into trouble, is generally very good with her brother and other children, but when I try to speak to her about these incidences she clams up. I have to coax them out of her and threaten to take away things she enjoys. Anyone else experience this? Any suggestions? Does it pass. I've already taken away attending a classmates birthday party and I haven't told her this yet but (she will not be allowed any classmates at her birthday party as additional punishment). I just don't know what to do. Not much seems to phase her. She doesn't play video games, I don't want to lock her inside, it's frustrating because i want to do the right thing. Thanks in advance to anyone. I appreciate it

[sadmomma22]

My daughter apparantly has a tendency to get in with the wrong crowd of people to add her "two cents" to and to say these things just to fit in. Which is why she's losing priviliges. She lied to me about her reason for saying what she said. I asked her what she was feeling when she said what she said ( with a little coaxing from me-my fault) and it was that she was scared. She never mentioned the other kid(s) one in particular (bad apple)  saying things. She already knew what the consequence was if she didn't tell me what happened, so she left things out which is why she cannot attend the party. I can't deal with lying to my face, I know I should get used to it, but I don't like it. I don't find it to be a bizarre reaction, maybe I didn't explain it properly, it's very late. Sorry, and thanks.

[RockRose]

I can't tell what you're talking about.  So,  your daughter was in a conversation with several children,  led by another child,  about a child who had suffered a seizure.  Your daughter offered that the girl had died and gone to heaven.

And then,  the principal called your home to tell you about that.  Okay,  I don't get that.  Maybe the Principal called to assure your daughter the child had not died,  and ease her fears?  I can't think of another reason the Principal would call about that conversation.

So now she can't go to a birthday party,  nor can she have a birthday party herself.

Is there more to this story?  This sounds like a bizarre reaction, on your part, to me.