I have a six year old daughter who has been "Hyper" and overly sensative since she was born. When she was two I took her to the doctor because I was having such a hard time with the crying and frustration and hyper out of control behavior. She was out of control, rolling on the floor, opening the door and running into the hall, climbing on the exam table, turning off and on the lights, ect. The doctor had the nerve to tell me that I needed parenting classes on what to expect for her age. She is my second child, so I know what is "normal" behavior. I took her to another doctor shortly after, who specialized in ADHD, who said that she definately had the behavior, but she was too young to diagnose. I left there at least feeling better about my parenting abilities. I was told to wait until she was in school. I happily awaited her Kindergarten, only to find out she was fine at school. I got mixed signals from the teacher, who would tell me she was fine and then I would get notes on her report card, about how she needs to learn "proper classroom behavior" Now she is in the first grade and I talked to her teacher last month and was told she was "Smart as a whip" and she just needed to learn when she could talk and when she needed to be quiet. Since then, she comes home telling me she has gotten a "blue card" which is like a third warning in class. If she gets another warning in a day, she gets a red card and a referal to the principle. She told me that she has had one of those already. I don't know what to do. At home, she spends the majority of her day crying. She gets frustrated very easily and cries that I am yelling at her. I have to tell her to do things more than once and then she cries because I am "yelling". Homework is another issue. She is ok at school work, but getting her to sit and do it is another issue. We have a pretty set schedule, because I do home daycare, she knows what to expect in her day and does good with routine. If her routine changes there is a lot of crying. Like on weekends, when there is no real routine. When she's not crying, she's jumping up and down, running crazy through the house, all hyper. She is constantly falling down, because she is never in control of her body. She is lot's of fun and full of surprises, but the crying is hard to handle. The whirlwind of energy she has affects my youngest daughter (3) and all of my daycare children. I feel bad yelling at her for having all the energy, but it makes me crazy. I don't know if she has ADHD, because she can sit and play with her sister for hours, barbies and polly pockets. She has a really good imagination and can spend hours doing art or playing outside, her attention span is good, but she is easily distracted when doing other things, like homework. She talks and is in constant motion. Any ideas about what I can do to stay sane?
Thanks