Abnormal Child Behaviour

Our Grandchild has recently started behaving strangely he will be 3 in November and has always been above average in most of his skills
Recently he startedfinding imaginary hairs belonging to his mother and has to return them to her, imaginary fluff that is his and he picks it up and puts it back on, if he is touched he thinks that the touching person is taking hishair,arm or what ever part of the body tht is contacted.
Today his mother and father took him for a walk on the beach and he wanted his father to get his footprints because they were his.
The problem appears to be a posessions thing, he is not a good sharer.
The family has recently moved and a new baby arrived 6 weeks ago  
we are very concerned what should we do

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

Dear Mr. Tindale,

The identity of an almost-three-year-old is directly tied to a few variables: parents, familiar surroundings, favorite possessions. Your grandson is managing two developments which are a threat to the identity of a toddler: the arrival of a sibling and relocation. These developments, if you will, turn the world of a child upside down. His behavior is an attempt to reestablish some equilibrium - who I am, what is mine, what is part of me, etc.

It's to be expected that major family transitions will be temporarily upsetting for a child of your grandson's age. But children are very adaptive and resilient, and before long he will settle into his new surroundings and the new family structure.

When families move, little children can often feel a bit ignored, with all the myriad details to which parents must attend. The same perception can be exacerbated by the arrival of a sibling, which arrival promotes some insecurity in children relative to their 'place' in their parents' affection. An attentive, supportive and understanding approach reaps great dividends. All in all, it sounds like your grandson is managing fine.

[keith harrison]

My son is having problems at school. He is attention seeking with adults (teachers), disruptive in class and will not remian on task for more than a few minutes.

[l.yanez]

PLease I need help for my 8 year old son.He is a very pleasant boy with a heart of gold,but when he gets angry,he get's so violant.He yells screams,throws things,and just yesterday he beat the daycare teacher,when she asked him to stop hitting his brother,he turned on her.He is remorseful.We don't spank him,but we do punish him.He sometimes does not remember these violant things he does.I feel one day he will really hurt himself or someone else(He also runs out into the street when he is angry)He tells his classmates that he is going to kill them if they do not leave him alone.He has already been suspended from school for this behavior,and I no longer have a daycare that will watch him.I need help and I want my son to get better.These violant tantrums have been going on since he was 3 years old,but,it seems the older he gets,the more frequent they are becoming,and also more violant.Also he is very big for his age,He is only 8
but,he is the size of a 12 year old.PLease help me.

                                        L.Yanez