For a couple of months I would suggest you implement the systematic behavior management approach detailed in Lynn Clark's book SOS Help for Parents (see www.sosprograms.com). Take a look at our Archives under Behavior/Discipline as well. My guess is that you need only to refine your parenting tactics and you'll see improvement. If, after a reasonable time, you see no improvement then by all means arrange professional intervention.
A couple of months with a systematic method of managing behavior should result in improvement.
I looked at the materials that you suggested and feel they are quite valuable. I understand the implementation of parenting tactics and our child's behavior change will not occur overnight, but how long it too long for seeing no improvement to where we might need to seek professional intervention?
The play activity and his preference for play vs talking with guests is all perfectly normal for the age. I really do not see any cause for concern in those regards.
As far as the issues we had that were discussed above I believe them to be resolving. it has been over one month and he has gotten angry about some things, gone in a time out for not listening, but has not been aggressive like in the past. We have been using a lot of positive reinforcement (star charts, etc.) along with having read the articles from the SOS Help for Parents. He has also started a new summer camp school which he is enjoying quite well and they keep them busy. There are some 6-7 year olds in there which I think help balance the personalities. Before his day care was with all younger kids and there was a lot of not getting along due to immaturity, etc....
My next question is about his playing. He is so engaged with his toys over the past few weeks (you'd think he got all new stuff but it is not) it seems like he only wants to focus on them at home. He will play a game with us, do phonics (briefly), read books, or do some educational computer games too and he does like to go outside. Seems like he frequently wants our attention also. He is an only child. My husband is starting to wonder if his involvement in his toys is not normal (what really is normal for kids at each age?). He (husband) notices other kids just standing in line with their parents at the store or wherever, and here is our kid always touching something, moving his car around (or whatever toy he has on him), using his imagination, always wanting to have one of his toys with him, etc. and doesn't seem to sit still very well. His listening isn't that great either. When we recently had guests over, my husband thought our son should sit and converse with every one but instead does not want to as he wants to go into the other room to play and do "child" like activities. He attends day care/summer camp 4 days a week and socializes with other kids well. When he is at home all day with us, we do a little of structured activities, free play, tv, computer, etc, so his schedule is not just all "free" play. We try to mix it up.
Just wondering if this is all normal for a 5 year old boy? It seems like girls sit still, listen better, stand in line better, etc. than boys? Or am I just making excuses for my busy son?
Our five year old is so engaged with his toys it seems like he only wants to focus on them at home. He will play a game with us, read books, or do some educational computer games too and he does like to go outside. Seems like he frequently wants our attention also. He is an only child. My husband is starting to wonder if his involvement in his toys is not normal (what really is normal for kids at each age?). He (husband) notices other kids just standing in line with their parents at the store or wherever, and here is our kid always touching something, moving his car around (or whatever toy he has on him), using his imagination, always wanting to have one of his toys with him, etc. and doesn't seem to sit still very well. When we recently had guests over, my husband thought our son should sit and converse with every one but instead does not want to as he wants to go into the other room to play and do "child" like activities. He attends day care/summer camp 4 days a week and socializes with other kids well. When he is at home all day with us, we do a little of structured activities, free play, tv, computer, etc, so his schedule is not just all "free" play. We try to mix it up.
Just wondering if this is all normal for a 5 year old boy? It seems like girls sit still, listen better, stand in line better, etc. than boys? Or am I just making excuses for my busy son?