I really hope someone can help! Our 4 yr old daughter seems to be getting worse with her behavior instead of better as she gets older. We feel like we have tried everything to get her to listen, follow directions, respect others, and just generally behave! She can be very loving and kind but most of the time she is disrespectful and nearly hateful toward her dad, brother, grandmother and myself. We have tried all the basic forms of disipline, time out, rewards, loss of privledge(toys, computer, etc...), even spanking. None of which have even made her change her behavior for a moment. We want to start her in preschool this fall so that she is prepared for kindergarten but, to tell the truth I am terrified of what they are going to think of her behavior. She is not a good eater so mealtime is always the most stressful. Even if we give her exactly what she asks for she finds some reason to not like it and drive my husband and I nuts in the process. Asking her to pick up her toys you would think we were asking her to do the most insane and difficult of tasks, she just out and out refuses. Then there is the problem with her lossing her temper and screaming, stomping, and slamming doors, and hitting anyone who gets in her way,it's like living with a 13 yr old instead of a 4 yr old. The confusing part is it could be anything that pushes her buttons, just this week telling her it was bath time threw her into the worst fit we have had in awhile. I even have taught myself to give her prep time, (when this cartoon is over..., after this book... in thirty min. when the clock says...) and still melt down with no warning. It's a her way or no way situation. We have an 8 yr old son who never gave us any problems and still doesn't and we don't think we did anything different in raising either of them. I am worried that over time due to the amount of attention and time we have to spend with our daughter that our sons behavior will change as well, feeling that the only was to get attention is to misbehave. I'd like to say that this behavior started at a certain time but to be honest even when she was a baby she was a difficult baby. For example she took longer to sleep through the night, we always had a hard time with feedings, late potty training, and so on. My husband and I are sure we have done something wrong we just don't know what it is, and believe me I feel like we have gone over our every word and action with a fine tooth comb looking for where we went wrong. I know that no two children are alike but I am just not sure what to do and was hoping for a little advice from someone that does not unconditionally love her(family).