I have a 14 year old autistic son that has recently developed a "curiosity" about sex. When his dad and I try to talk to him about sex, he gets very embarrassed and says he doesn't want to know, covers his ears and runs out of the room. I didn't want to force the subject on him but knew that he needed at least the basics. Because of his autism it has been very difficult to explain details to him or for him to relate any questions to us. That being said, we found out that he had been searching the words sex and girls on our home computer, which of course brought the very information we were trying to avoid. We again explained to him in more detail about sex and the dangers of pornography and that we did not want him exposed to that type of material. However, we wanted him to know that what he was feeling was normal and a way of nature taking its course. We felt like we had an understanding until now. We just found out that he got on our computer (without permission or supervision) and looked at porn. Later that night he and his brother (who is 11) were playing on the XBOX and he fell asleep in his room. Our son with the autism was inappropriate with him. From the information I have been able to gather, he put his hands down his shorts and touched his butt, while touching himself. Both of them say he did not touch his penis. My younger son woke up and told him to stop, which he did.Needless to say this raises HUGE red flags for me and my husband. We have already contacted a behavioral health clinic and he set to go n for an appt. in 5 days-- not soon enough. When we confronted him about this, he was extremely remorseful, claiming he doesn't know why he did it. Is this signs of things to come? or is this an impulse control issue? Could he face criminal charges? I don't want to blow this off or stick my head in the sand. I am greatly concerned, I have the interest of both of my children at stake. I have spoken to the clinic regarding my younger son as well, I don't want him to suffer either. Any advice you could give would be appreciated. Thank you --- worried mom
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