Bm problems potty training

[krushbc]

Our son is a VERY strong-willed 3 yrs and is having a problem with BM's and the toilet. He has been "potty training" since he was not quite 2, he has peeing down and goes days at a time with no accidents at all. However, BM's are different. He insists on going in his underpants and refuses to go to the bathroom, kicking and screaming until he can come out.
We have tried praising him, scolding him, rewarding him, playing games, showing him, sending him in with his brother, making him clean up his mess, we have tried just about everything we can think of. He is in Daycare 5 days a week and  he has BM accidents there aswell as home.
We are getting very frustrated with this. His older brother was potty trained literally over night at the age of 2 , we just had to show him a couple times. And he's been trained since, no accidents. This is a very different experience fro us. All of our friends have 2 and 3 yr olds that are fully trained. And ours seems to be struggling.

[babygirl6152]

we were holding our breath at age 5- If you push it so hard it becomes a control issue- he would hold back on you and get sick from it- then I had to look at it like all I cared about was him not being ill- so I had to reward him for just doing it in his diaper..... then we finally got him to do it one time in the potty chair and made the biggest deal out of it - I know... it's like you had to call the president or something it was such big news. Positive reinforcement is all that worked with us, but I have heard of a mom that actually had to shame her child into getting trained 1 week from kindergarten- and he was fine- I know you hate waiting that long- it's just so hard to know what to do with this issue...... I do know that at my preschool we gave a sticker or hand stamp to all the ones that would even TRY- and the ones that were able to eliminate were given applause- I know it's crazy but we have toddlers- and we can spend our time with this kind of fun! SO we even use peer pressure (in a positive way?) See if your teachers will do that with him.

[91004]

My son was 3 1/2  or over before he started pooping in the toilet as you said I tried everything. I took 2 months off work and by time I went back to work he was totally potty trained. I would let him run around naked(he knew not to go in the floor) and when he acted like he was about to go I would sit him on the potty. Everyday he had to sit on the potty(around the time he normally went) I would let him sit for a few minutes if he didnt go I would take him back in 30 more min did this until he went. He loves Reeses and the only way he would get 1 that day was to go potty. He eventaully got it. My problem always was when I was working he was at his grandmothers and we had different schedules, I think thats why it worked for me to take off. Your daycare probally has a different schedule or isnt making the effort to take him(even tho they are probally saying they are.) Atleast I know my younger sons daycare is like that