Book Recommendation

My husband has a 9-year-old son who has been sleeping with his "mommy" since he was out of a crib. She has coddled him to death and gives into his every whim.  If he wants, he gets - no is not an option.  As a result, he has severe emotional, detachment and behavioral issues.  He whines incessantly, his school work has suffered and everyone is at their wits end with what to do.

The boy's mother is finally realizing the Frankenstein she has created as her new boyfriend is the target of the child's anger and resentment.  The man gets kicked, threatened and told to leave the house.  The child is jealous because the boyfriend is getting mommy's attention.

She has finally agreed with my husband (after years of him pushing) to get the boy into therapy.  In the interim, I was wondering if anyone could recommend any good books on this subject.  While she agrees that he has problems, she doesn't want to acknowledge that her behaviors might be reinforcing some of this behavior.

Any good suggestions?

Thanks!

[margypops]

I can assume you are the child's step mom, I do not agree that allowing a child to sleep with her is not right,if they are both comfortable with it, half the world would be castigated otherwise,coddling' also perhaps this is a mom's way of taking care of her child,maybe stay out of the situation you post sounds biased.  

[wlc526]

Are you a child psychologist?  What are your credentials?

You are NOT QUALIFIED to comment on this post.  This 9-year-old child has severe emotional issues that are now being manifested in outbursts of rage as in his own words, "I cannot sleep with out my mommy."

Please do not tell me to "stay out of" something I am directly involved in.  This child spends every other weekend at my home.  I would appreciate it if you would stay off of my posts.  I have asked for book recommendations, not for a woman who use this as a forum to justify why sleeping with her own children is normal.

Please just STOP - you do not understand the magnitude of how bad this child is doing.

[margypops]

I will stay out of it as you request, I was giving my opinion,your first few sentences were what I was commenting on ..