Bowel Movement in Pants

[khart]

My child is 10 years old and still poops in his pants just about everyday, sometimes twice a day.  He also lies about it.  I punish him for this and lying but nothing does any good.  I am so frustrated and I don't know what do do.  Please help.


This discussion is related to DO YOU OUTGROW SOILING YOUR PANTS AT 7 YRS OLD?.

[margypops]

Is this simply soiling as if he is not wiping himself properly or do you mean actually going into his pants?At school aswell??  There could be an emotional issue going on, rather than punishment find out why he is doing it, at 10years old there is a reason.

[khart]

No it is more that not wiping properly.  I have tried to talk to him many times (almost daily) but all I ever get is "I don't know".  I went in the bathroom after he got a shower last night and their was pieces all over the bathrub.  It seems to me that he just doesn't want to take the time to go.  

[margypops]

Seems you have to speak to him strongly and tell him it is not permitted to do this,could he be constipated as he is going in bits'make him clean up any mess but persist in finding out an answer, and as I asked previosly does he do this at school?

[mybabies1999]

This doesn't sound right. At 10 years old? You havent' spoken to anyone all this time? He says he doesn't know, because he doesn't know why. He isn't a therapist or a physician. I think there is an anxiety of some sort causing this, but it isn't normal at 10 to be doing this in your pants or in the bath tub and on a daily basis. does he only do this at home?

[khart]

No, it is not normal.  I have spoken to his doctor many times.  I have an appoitment set up for this coming Tuesday.  My son cried when I told him he has a doctor's appt. regarding this issue and promised not to do it anymore but he promises all the time and the next day he does it again.  He said he wouldn't talk to the doctor and I said you don't talk to me either.  He told me he just doesn't like to go to the bathroom; he doesn't like to stop what he is doing and go.  To answer your other question he doesn't just do this at home.  I do make him clean up his underwear and messes.

[babygirl6152]

Pardon me, but is he mentally challenged? What other odd things are going on your lives? Divorce? Hates school? Sibling trouble?

sounds like control issue- and that is emotional- good luck. Interested in what the Dr advises- Hang in there mom

[Bettyboop4papa]

One of my nephews did the same thing but also would wet pants until he was about 11 1/2 and he just quit... the doc said it was due to he was a preemie baby and that this can sometimes be a long term effect and just do your best not to make him feel bad about it because then it would become worse from a complex.. once she started ignoring it and just helping him if he needed it it resolved shortly after...

[althepal39]

He probably has ENCROPESIS.  Look it up on google - Don't punish him - at 10 years old there is no reason in the world he would WANT to do this.. he can't help it!

[terriebear]

Just wondering is he at his grade level at school ? or have ADD or anyother health or mental problems ? A child I look after ia almost 11 and poops his pants and we dont get it we are doing everything we can and nothing helps and the mother is so done with it so Im trying to get to the problem