Can't explain why?

[VH-Mr.Mom]

When asked why my son chose to urinate on the floor and into the heating vent, he couldn't give me an answer. He's 6 years old and I'm certain he knows better. What's an appropriate consequence for what I believe to be a behavioral issue? I can't believe I'm asking this question online.......


This discussion is related to urinating on bedroom floor.

[VH-Mr.Mom]

Oh, he cleaned it up! Believe that! Thanks for the input ladies. I like the idea of him writing a letter, if it happens again (and it shouldn't), I'll give that a try.

Yes, he's been told not to do it before, as this is the 2nd time that I actually caught it. I walked into my boys bedroom and smelled urine and thought it was my youngest who had an accident....NOPE! His pajamas and bed were bone dry, so I sniffed around the room and came to my eldest's and low and behold, his were also dry. In the corner of the room, there's a vent (not a radiator, thank heavens) and he urinated in it, on the floor and on the bottom of the drapes. Having two little boys (4&6) and I expect accidents, but this is no accident. This is either laziness or he's scared to get out of bed, which I'm sorry is no excuse to pee all over the room. As for not having the verbal ability, I'll take that into consideration as well. I wouldn't expect him to give me a detailed thesis on why he chose to pee in his room, but I DO expect answers. When asked why he did it, he said "because I'm not supposed to pee on the floor"  Flustered, I didn't bother asking him why again. This is good though, I appreciate the input....Sincerely!  Thanks.

[babygirl6152]

Has he been told not to do it and chose to disobey? Is this the first time? the appropriate punishment is to turn the radiator off til it cools- make him clean it with paper towels, then soap it up and dry it off with fresh rags. That's it- he gets to clean his mess.....

I know what you mean but think it through this way-

if it's behavioral: he can't explain it rationally-

I remember when my husband left me and my two boys for a sweeter younger blonder- sweetie pie- anyways- our 4 year old kicked the refrigerator, used a screw driver to demolish boxes, yelled to his older brother that he hated him- etc etc- children cannot verbalize their feelings as we would be able to- "You know dad is probably going through a midlife crisis, mom- he loves us surely but I am angry that he left- Why doesn't he behave and come back and live with us?"

on the other hand if your boy did it once and you told him not to- who knows he maybe wanted to do a science experiment and see if the radiator steamed/ you'll be laughing when he's 15 when you tell his first girlfriend

[RockRose]

I think he needs to clean it up,  and write you a letter of apology.  Every time he pees outside the toilet,  he'll have to write another letter,  and clean it up.  

And not just a "pretend" clean it up,  clean it up to the standard that you would.  

At 6,  he knows better.

Best wishes.