Child asked to leave his current school due to his behavior

[Aggie8806]

My 32 month old son has exhibited some very "odd" behaviors since very early. Due to this behavior he has had therapy for hypersensitivity and has been asked to be removed from schools several times due to his inadequate interaction with children.
At this point I want to know if his behavior exhibits patterns of certain socio-developmental issues. He covers his ears sometimes (he stopped doing it at one point, but has picked back up on it lately), he does not like children (have in mind he interacts with adults more often than children, and he is also not accustomed to large [6-7] groups of kids)  he gets scared of kids, no matter the age, and normally ends up getting physical with them, during his time in school he does not participate during group activities.
He is very smart and understands a lot but I am worried this behavior might be something worse than just growing issues of an only child.

[specialmom]

I'm glad to make you feel better.  I will add to my above comments that my son was very motivated to have buddies and be one of the guys.  He has accomplished his goal.  I'm a strong strong believer in early intervention as it has changed the course of my child's life in a posative way.

What type of therapy is your son doing?  Is it occupational therapy?  They have many many techniques that they use to help the nervous system.  I incorporate things I learn there and have researched into our every day life as well.  It will help me to know what they do for him in therapy now.  

My son was in preschool for 2 half days a week when he was diagnosed and luckily the school worked with us and him so that he could stay.  Is your son in daycare or preschool and for how long?  

[Aggie8806]

You dont know how comforting it is to hear you say that it is something that can be overcomed as it really does pain me to see him so excluded and pushed back and forth between daycares.

He will continue to see his therapist, as that is what the counselor and principal of the school recommended, however, are there any recommendations you'd like to give me to help him and to address the situation best?

Thank you for your insight and support,

[Aggie8806]

You dont know how comforting it is to hear you say that it is something that can be overcomed as it really does pain me to see him so excluded and pushed back and forth between daycares.

He will continue to see his therapist, as that is what the counselor and principal of the school recommended, however, are there any recommendations you'd like to give me to help him and to address the situation best?

Thank you for your insight and support,

[specialmom]

Hi, from your very brief description, I am guessing sensory integration disorder.  My oldest child has this developmental delay.  My son is very smart as well and met all of his developmental milestones early or on time.  But he had some odd reactions and behaviors as well.  

Tactile defensiveness was an issue for my child.  He still will put his hands into a fist rather than touch something unsettling to him.  Auditory defensiveness is also something my child has.  Covering his ears is a sign of that.  My child also has auditory difficulties in loud and crowded places--------  he becomes overwhelmed and it even pushes him into a "flight or fight" instinctual response.  

An occupational therapist trained in sensory is who diagnoses it and then you do occupational therapy.  This is like play therapy and addresses the nervous system.  (which sensory is basically a nervous system issue).  My son was diagnosed officially at 4 and began therapy.  At 6 he is doing wonderfully well.  

Social skills issues are very common with sensory-------  they have to be taught slowly and emphatically (things that come naturally to other kids does not come naturally to a sensory kid).  
Google sensory integration disorder and see what you think. good luck