Child outburst

[Megaroni]

Hi, how are you?  I have recently been stunned by my 9 year old daughters behavior.  We went to the 7-eleven store, and I had bought a coffee.  My daughter decided to empty her purse of all change and get a $5.00 bill.  Of course I knowing the line would build up quickly and that this is a fast service store, reached over to help her count, and I spilled my coffee all over her.  I was so concerned she was burned.  She screamed a bloody sound, and then continued this loud stir, yelling at me for getting coffee on her purse and ruining it.  I wanted to see if she was burned and she would not allow me to look.  She continued to cry so hard and yell about her purse.  She said I am not really burned, but why did you do this, and look you ruined my purse.  I could hardly calm her down.  My first concern was if she was burned, I was truly humiliated by this outburst.  It was so exaggerated.  I am noticing that other kids start out playing with her initially, but over a short period of time they do not come back.  I am so concerned that she will be an outcast in school.  She has always been home-schooled, very loved, and some-what spoiled.  She is attending a charter school this August, and I am concerned.  She is extremely smart, talented, and artistic.  However she is negative.  I as her mom have always been over tolerant.  He dad has always been over firm.  We are complete oposites, and I wonder if this has attributed to the problem.  Please help me.  Thanks Megaroni


This discussion is related to loud outburst and dramatics.

[Megaroni]

thank you for responding.  There have been a lot of changes in her life lately.  I think you are on to something.  I have noticed she is more emotional than normal.  I also think I have figured a few root causes to some of her behavior.  Since she could crawl, I have always role-played with her.  While playing we interact with one another the entire time.  I have been observing her lately with friends, and I realized she doesn't feel like they are playing with her unless they are interacting the entire time.  At first I thought that was so odd, but the more I think about it, I think she may be one in a million, and really knows how to be a "best friend" along with intamacy.  I watch the other kids and they may be together, but they do their own thing.  I now need to impart to her the way it really is.  I hope and pray she will adjust quickly to the "reality of life".  Thanks again.

[margypops]

Hey I just agreed with you on someone elses thread!! LOL Sounds like she is feeling Anxious about someting, have you asked her why she overreacted in the store? If Dad is too Firm can you adress that with him and ask him to let up on her .If she has been home schooled and is now going to a school possibly there lies your answer and she is wondering how she will do there and if people will like her, Reasure her so she wont feel so anxious, as always you can talk to a Councillor about it all.Has she firends and does things out of the Home?  Good luck