My 7 year old son has started to touch little girls in an inappropiate way. The first time was when he was in kindergarden. I am very concerned and would like to know the best way to talk to him about it. At first, I was thinking he does not understand what he's doing, but he continues touching them or tell them that he is going to touch them. Both me and his father have talked to him about it, the school has talked to him about it and even had a special class about inappropiate touching. What can I do to help him understand?
He has touch different little girls in the private area, and on the butt. He also has threatened to put his hands in their pants. His teacher makes sure he only sits around other boys. I have spanked numerous times, thrown away all his toys, made him sit in his room alone with no tv, he loves playing baseball and I have now taken that away from also.
You are understanably upset about his behavior, but some of the tactics you have employed are not prudent. It would be wise to reinstate baseball - the activity is good for him, and he will not profit from your restricting him from it. And [physical punishment is simply not effective. If there is any episode of inappropriate touching, (a) give him a time out of approximately 20-30 minutes; (b) restrict him from favored pursuits (e.g., television, computer, video games) for a day, and (c) have him write an apology to the child involved. Beyond that, continue to educate him about 'right' and 'wrong' types of touching, and employ children's literature (the librarian at your local library can help you) to asssit you with this sort of education. Finally, be sure that your child is not being touched inappropriately himself. Sometimes children who are victimized will repeat the behavior with others.
I realize that the spanking was not working, thats why I have taken other things away from him. I have asked him if someone has been touching him that way but he says no. I thought that the sports would give him a reason to think about what he does before he does it, especially if he thinks the act will cause him to not be able to play. I am just afraid that if he continues, a parent will want to or try to press charges against him for this behaviour. I recently started looking for books he can read or I can read with him to help him understand just how serious this can be if he continues. Thanks so much for your advise.
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