Your daughter is experiencing a very normal exploration for her age. Most people who seek therapy do so not because they display serious emotional disorder, but rather because they are trying to solve problems. At its essence therapy is a problem-solving process. You are a parent, not a therapist. Of course you will continue to offer your daughter the king of love and support and guidance only a parent can offer. But that can go only so far. You seem to have the idea that to arrange therapy for your daughter would be to do something wrong. She has a need and you are trying to answer it, just as any responsible parent would do. You tell her staright out that you do not think there is something wrong with her. People don't seek therapy because there is something wrong with them. They are trying to solve something in their lives.
Thank you so much for your response. Isn't it common for adolescents to question their sexuality at this age? I don't want her to think that we feel that there is something wrong with her and that is why she needs to see a therapist. I fear that she will completely shut down and not trust her Dad and I at all if we force her into therapy. Isn't it possible for her Dad and I to offer her the support she will need as she goes through this self discovery process?
Because she is so young, in spite of her expressed disavowal of therapy I would certainly go ahead and arrange therapy for her. She may indeed have sensed that she is homosexual, and she will need support dealing with this. Try to seek a therapist who has experience dealing with gay and lesbian issues. You handled things very well with her - you were understanding, accepting and suppportive.