Desperate please help

[shazbot40]

My 41/2 year old is constantly being sent home from school as he has done a BM in his pants - he is not constipated and has no trouble going as long as it is not on the toilet - we have tried everything from bribery to punishment to not making a big deal of it -
nothing works
his childminder has now said that if it continues she will not be able to have him anymore as this pm he  got off the toilet and pooed on the floor deliberately.

can anyone help

[mumat17]

My son was the same i tried everything including making him sit on toilet 3 times a day but it was just a case of waiting he grew out of it himself as im sure your son will too GOOD LUCK!!!

[24me]

A close friend had the same problem. She was called in to change his diapers every day-he had to wear them, no other choice. Maybe he's just not ready for school-usually an indicator is potty training. I'm sure they have a size big enough until he's ready. I hear a lot of boys have trouble with pooping on their own at this age. I'll know 1st hand in a couple years. I wish I had a better solution for you.