My 3 year 6 mo. old grandson was taken abruptly from his mother (at 18 months) when his younger brother was born (will be 2 in September). The baby tested positive for methamphetamines at birth and DHS removed both boys from my daughter. Family was able to get them home within a week and I cared for the infant while the older one went from day care to day care. A squabble from the mother regarding visitation caused DHS to remove the boys from the family where they separated them in the DHS shelter. The baby was found a foster mother in a few weeks. It took several months for a foster family to be found for the now 3 year old. The older boy was not only separated from his mother, father, grandparents and cousins, but was also separated from his new brother. Finally a WONDERFUL foster family was found for both of the boys, the oldest one joining that family sooner than the baby because of being hospitalized for pneumonial
I am the maternal grandmother who eventually was awarded custody and guardianship of both boys in March of 2007. SInce that time the mother has been in and out of their lives and now has another 9 month old child. She has basically said I can raise he children and she will come see them whenever she wants. The 2 year old is doing great as I am and have been his primary caregiver.
The 3 year old is instilled with horrible anger. He has no respect for other adults, refuses to tolerate instruction or follow rules in the now three daycare enviornments he has been exposed to. He refuses to listen, throws chairs, etc. at the "teachers", kicks and spits at them, then laughs in their faces. He just flat goes along ignoring all of the rules, disrupting every event that takes place. I love him so much and I believe he has symptoms of RAD because of what happened to him from the age of 18 and 26 months. He used to be the most joyous baby and caused everyone around him to glow. He is angry and that is evident when something makes him mad -- the extent of anger he shows doesn't coordinate with what has made him mad. He told our pastor that he gets mad, that he knows he gets mad and he doesn't like being mad. I have even recently seen him jump up in the air and fall HARD to the ground screaming. The mother was living with us for a time after the third baby was born, then one day she just took off again -- no explanation to him, no contact with him -- from Memorial Day until last week.
He has just been kicked out of the second day care for this behaviour. One being a smaller home environment with few children, the other rather large.
Are you able to read anything between the lines here? Any suggestion will help me.
Frustrated to the Hilt