HELP! I don't how much more I can take!!

My DS will be 4 in Febraury.  He has never been a good sleeper.  I always knew this, but now that I have my DD who is three months, it is even harder to deal with.  He frequently wakes up screaming and crying and can't really tell us what is going on.  Sometimes he needs to go to the bathroom, but sometimes he doesn't need anything.  My three month old is sleeping all night and has been for some time.  I know God knew I could handle another one that doesn't sleep!! LOL!  My husband has been out of town all week and my DS has had a really bad week as far as sleeping goes.  He was sick last weekend and has missed daddy this week, but he has been waking up several times each night screaming.  Last night it woke up the baby because he was so loud.  I feel like we have tried everything.  We sometimes give in and let him come in our bed, but things are no better.  My fear is that he will continue to wake the baby and mess up her great sleep habits as well.  I have talked to two different peds. about it when he was younger, but their suggestions don't help.. Do any of you have any ideas?  I lay there at night feeling so mad and frustrated that my 3 month old can sleep all night and my almost 4 year old can't sleep more than a couple of hours at a time.  I need some help!!

[Agiesmom]

He may be having night terrors.  My son has had a couple and he doesn't even remember waking.  Does that seem to be the case with your son?

My son was a restless sleeper, too, and here's what we did:  we made a "cozy spot" next to my side of our bed and I told him that if he wakes up scared and is REALLY quiet and doesn't wake us, he can come into our room and sleep in his cozy spot the rest of the night.  But if he wakes me, I will put him back to sleep in his own room.  That was enough to get him to quietly come into our room when he awakened.  Knowing that he had that option helped him tremendously and it became less and less of an issue.  This was nice because he started out the night in his own bed, but still had comfort in knowing he could always come into our room.  And he wasn't IN our bed (he was a kicker and that just wasn't an option).  He eventually quit coming into our room altogether.

Best of luck to you!

[girliegrl1723]

my younger cousin had bad night terrors. it persisted until he was 7 or so. then he eventually grew out of it. its possible that could be part of the problem here. although i cant offer any advice on how to handle it. i wish you luck.

[parker_33]

hi my son is 13 he dreams of water and he wets his bed and hes 13!!! if you have any tips what to do please tell me  


p.s my son used to have night terrors but he grew out of it like girliegrl1723 seid but i think your son will grow out of it to good luck!!.