HELP ME NOT SURE HOW TO HANDLE THIS

[kdazzle100]

I have a 6 yr old daughter that has been acting out sexual.. the first time was with her best friend playing" the nasty game" (dry humping) they got caught because the other little girl went home & tried to play with her little brother. when i confronted her & asked her where did she get that from her response was she walked in on me & her daddy.. so time passes & she goes to stay the night with my sister & her 10 yr old step daughter is living with her. a week later my daughter comes to me showing me a bump on her tete & so i begin to question her & she tells me that the 10 yr old girl forced my daughters hand to touch her & then the other girl touched her. & tonight my 3 yr old daughter came to me & told me that my 6 yr old daughter touched her & my 6 yr old is saying my 3 yr old touched her too.. Iam so angry & discussed I've tried to get my 6 yr old in consluling but they dont take any child younger than 13 she needs help now & i know im not going about this the right way. what is the right way to deal with this?   Help me please. will this effect both my daughters as adults even though they r still very young? will they remember all this?

[Alias87]

That b.s **** get a second opinion they treat kids as young as two . They are lying to you. And FYI something is wrong... Something is happening to her.she needs someone trained in handling this. And stop being disgusted that's your child. You need to suck it up and be their for your child. You brought her into the world you can't back out now... Go hug her and try and figure out what really is happening with out anger... Smh

[Ladybug6772]

Did you ever stop to think for one min that there is no chance in hell that she is angry or discussed with her girls, that maybe JUST MAYBE, she is upset that she can’t find anyone one that is willing to listen to her about what is going on and or what she is going through. OR just maybe that she can not find anyone willing to help her when she needs it the most!!! Some ppl need to think before they open their mouth, get your facts straight! SMH!!!!

[xXx_Christy_xXx]

Someone has likely abused your 6 year old. That behavior doesn't come from walking in on your parents. You need to investigate and be very careful who she's allowed to be around. Don't give up on finding a counselor. This is important. Her sexuality has been ignited and she's too little to understand.

Talk to her about what is appropriate and what's not and ask if someone has touched her in those places and who. Most abusers will scare the children into thinking they can't tell. Open the door for her. Let her know that you're going to protect her. And don't rule out The possibility of it being another child who has been abused, either.

She needs counseling. Don't give up on that.

You should look into the Yell and Tell books by Debi Pearl. There's one for boys and one for girls. It talks on a young child's level about warning signs and things abusers say to trick children and teaches them it's okay to tell. It might help open conversation.

[xXx_Christy_xXx]

Try to act natural when you talk about it with her. Don't be harsh or let your emotions take over. She needs to know you're there for her through this.

[xXx_Christy_xXx]

And yes, they will probably remember. I have a good friend who was prepped to do sexual favors by the time she was 3. To this day She can't even stand the smell of alcohol on someone's breath bc of the things she endured then.

[Raisha40]

Kids are curious. I would first talk to her about appropriate touching and inappropriate touching and stress that inappropriate touching is not allowed or okay for anyone to do. I would also reassure her that if there is any of that she can tell you and she will not get in trouble. As well, go through scenarios and give her words to use if it happens like, this isn't okay. No. I'm not doing this.

[maddyj82]

don't be angry at your daughters they do not understand sex. your anger can be scarring. there are many child counselors,the place you called probably only treats adults google child therapists in your area. they will know how to handle this and how to advise you with handling this. never leave your daughter with these girls unsupervised. watch your daughters when they're home and explain to them calmly that their parts are private and only for themselves, mom and the doctor to ever have to see or touch. try your best not to shame them. tell them they must be in a private situation to look at or touch themselves. my guess is they will forget about these games within a short amount of time. it sounds like something is going on with your sisters step daughter and i would advise your sister to tell her husband his daughter might be a victim of sexual abuse and that this is serious. this child might be in danger and she needs protection if she is.

[nattyamacarlos]

Sounds like your sisters daughter might have started something. Look into that. Slash they're are for sure counselors. Go to your pediatrician & see if he has a referral.

[Toostrickperson]

Tell her that that touching is not okay! There is a fine line between okay touching and inappropriate touching. If I was you, I would tell my child they could go to jail for that. Juvenile is not a good place and she needs to clean up her act. If you see it again punish it a way fit, like giving away some toys or no internet or chargers. Or seeing her friends. Tell her that she can have a break from people if shes going to touch them inappropriately. And tell her teachers to keep an eye on her and her friends because well, your not there. Also, remember that your daugter is at fault too. You told her no and she kept doing it. Your not one of her friends. Your her parent and she should respect you. (This looks like its for a 10yr old not a 6 lol)

[Love20yearslater]

I'm not sure about where u live, but in CA Sierra Vista child services is a god send! I agree that she could have been a victim, or she could be very curious. And curiosity is normal,it doesn't mean she's bad or gross. She's a child.Because of the world we live in, the things that were said at school, I have been very blunt about things that have to do with sex. I try to keep it age appropriate. MY friends started sending their kids to me cause they didn't know what to say. They are now 17 and 19. We still talk about anthing they want to, I still answer their questions, but because I never acted shocked or made them feel bad, they feel like we can talk abut anything. I agree a therapist is the right way to go.

[jsycz]

There are pediatric psychologists out there. You may have to travel a little farther to get the help, but it will be worth it. If someone is out of network, you can request a Gap Exception which requests that the provider you choose is paid and your responsibility is at the in-network level (this exception will apply if no one within ~30 miles can provide the service).

[Gdvahz]

Did you every sit down with them and say that its not okay to do ? This is why you have to be careful of what kids see and watch and you should really explain that its not okay if people touch them in their private areas and that they should tell if someone ever do

[bmichelle01]

I'm so sorry this is happening as it can be very confusing for both you and the children. I think this situation is to complex and needs to be taken care of very carefully. The best course of action would be to contact a family counselor.