as far as the clothes issue, my brother was the same way for years growing up. he would onlyt wear like "sweat" material sorts/pants and short sleeved t shirts. no jeans, no shirts with collars or buttons, nothing. he eventually grew out of it and wears normal clothes now - he is 19. so i wouldnt worry too much about that if its an isolated issue.
Definately make an appointment the his doctor about the "sensory issue". I can understand the "fear" you may feel some times. Your son knows this and will play upon it. You must always show your son you are in control of the situation, enen if inside you dont feel like it. It is hard to communicate with a 4 year old, but when you do, do it when he is calm and collected. Have a talk with him about his behavior and what is not acceptable. If he does what is not acceptabe, tell him what will happen. Make it a punishment you will stick with every time. When he is in a "rage" there is no reasoning with him. When you are talking ask him why he thinks he behaves in this manner, and what he thinks you should do to help prevent it. Make him a part of the disaplin process, that way he will know what to expect. Be consistant.......and above all, do not show fear of him. Children at this age don't know how to control their emotions. That is why it is important for us to control our emotions, that way it will be learned by your son. Good luck.
Thank you for your input. The shorts he likes are pj shorts. They are soft. He doesnt like jeans at all. I will have to see if I can find more. For now what I do is wash the same ones. I tried taking him shopping in hopes if he picked something he liked he might wear it. nope didnt work. Sometimes i can get him to wear stuff if i tell him he'll get used to it.
I did read alot of other post like mine with the behavior issues. I just dont know where to start. I guess I will just have to make him appt with a doctor.
Brandy, you've got several issues here.
First, He sounds like he has sensory defensiveness issues. Do you know where the shorts came from? If you do, can you buy him several more pairs, and do they have pants just like the shorts? There are LOTS of kinds of socks, I bet he can find ones that feel good to him. When he says they "hurt", I think he doesn't know how to say "they're very irritating".
Secondly, I don't know what to do about his out of control behavior, but if you look down the board about every 1/3 post sounds just like yours, so maybe you could pick up some help there. I'm just exhausted reading the same story over and over, and don't know what to say to help.
But don't fight about the sensory stuff. Get him clothes that feel good to him, and in the interim, wash the same pair of shorts every night.