Help! i dont know what to do anymore!

[Casto1330]

My son just turned 5- and this year had been a very eventful year for him. He was diagnosed with AD/HD, ODD, and OCD. He is becoming very hard to deal with, he cries over anything and everything. When he doesn't get his way he cries and throws a fit. I can't take him out in public because im affraid he will throw a fit on me and start screaming and crying.  He doesn't listen to anything his Father and I tell him. He is the the total opposite at school, he listens and is polite. He played baseball earlier this year and we had no problems with him, and now he is in football , there are days when we cant get him to the field fast enough because he is ready to tackle and be with him friends, but then there is days when the smallest thing will make him cry for an hour straight. Punishments just do not work with him at ALL. He fights with his 2 yr old sister 90% of the time, when he is mad you cant talk to him, look at him, or anything because he will flip out.  That's his favorite thing to say now ( if you don't do this I'm going to flip out!). I don't know what to do anymore i can already tell his sister is picking up on his behavior. i feel like im failing at parenting because i cant control him. His doctor had him on 10mg of Adderall and 15mg of Lamictal, and i see no change in his behavior=(





The doctor has him on 10mg of adderall and 15 mg of Lamictal and i still have not seen a change in his behavior.

[Sandman2]

   Kind of weird, the post by me came out jumbled.  Here it is in the correct order (I hope)
          
   Margypops raises a good point.  I couldn't find any interactions when I went to  http://www.drugs.com/drug-interactions/adderall-with-lamictal-190-1645-1430-848.html.
  However in researching that med (lamicatal). I did wonder why it was prescribed since it is mainly prescribed for seizures and bipolar - non of which you have listed as a problem.  and there are other meds that might be more appropriate.  So I guess my first question would be what kind of a doctor are you seeing.  If it is a psychiatrist who specializes in kids  - ok, maybe he has a reason.  If it is a pediatrician, I would definitely question his thinking.  And ya, you definitely need to google lamicatal.
    I do disagree with the idea that the meds are contributing to his problem, simply because it doesn't seem to be a problem at school.  Your words.  If the meds were a problem, it would also appear at school.
     So what's going on?  10mgs of adderall is a pretty low dose for an entire day.  I would guess that it is wearing off by the time he gets home.  Doctors typically start a child off on a low dose and wait for parent feedback.  Have you talked with your doctor about this problem?
   Second, his behavior sounds very much like what you see posted here about 5 year olds who have pretty good intelligence.  He has found a behavior that gets him what he needs.  You need to change that behavior.  A great book to help you do this is -  "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark.    Along with this book, you also need to make sure that you understand what a child with ADHD can and can not do - and how to work with that child.  The best book I have found for that is - "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley.
      While you are into books.  Another set that may help is a series that are meant to be read aloud to kids who are between 4 and 7.  Besides the message in these books, I've got a feeling that the extra attention paid to him while reading to him will be good.  (at his age, I personally feel you should be reading to him every night anyway).  With a two year old sister, he probably hasn't gotten the attention that he was used to getting for his first 3 and one half years, and it does have an effect.  Probably a good book to start with is
"Words are not for hurting"  found here - http://www.amazon.com/Words-Hurting-Ages-Best-Behavior/dp/1575421569/ref=pd_sim_b_1
   And then "Hands are not for hitting" found here - http://www.amazon.com/Hands-Hitting-Ages-Best-Behavior/dp/1575420775
   At both sites, if you scroll down you will find more appropriate books.   If you have any other questions, I am mainly on the ADHD forum if you feel like posting over there.  Best wishes.

[Sandman2]

   Margypops raises a good point.  I couldn't find any interactions when I went to  http://www.drugs.com/drug-interactions/adderall-with-lamictal-190-1645-1430-848.html.
  However in researching that med (lamicatal). I did wonder why it was prescribed since it is mainly prescribed for seizures and bipolar - non of which you have listed as a problem.  and there are other meds that might be more appropriate.  So I guess my first question would be what kind of a doctor are you seeing.  If it is a psychiatrist who specializes in kids  - ok, maybe he has a reason.  If it is a pediatrician, I would definitely question his thinking.  And ya, you definitely need to google lamicatal.
    I do disagree with the idea that the meds are contributing to his problem, simply because it doesn't seem to be a problem at school.  Your words.  If the meds were a problem, it would also appear at school.
    While you are into books.  Another set that may help is a series that are meant to be read aloud to kids who are between 4 and 7.  Besides the message in these books, I've got a feeling that the extra attention paid to him while reading to him will be good.  (at his age, I personally feel you should be reading to him every night anyway).  With a two year old sister, he probably hasn't gotten the attention that he was used to getting for his first 3 and one half years, and it does have an effect.  Probably a good book to start with is
"Words are not for hurting"  found here - http://www.amazon.com/Words-Hurting-Ages-Best-Behavior/dp/1575421569/ref=pd_sim_b_1
   And then "Hands are not for hitting" found here - http://www.amazon.com/Hands-Hitting-Ages-Best-Behavior/dp/1575420775
   At both sites, if you scroll down you will find more appropriate books.   If you have any other questions, I am mainly on the ADHD forum if you feel like posting over there.  Best wishes.
   So what's going on?  10mgs of adderall is a pretty low dose for an entire day.  I would guess that it is wearing off by the time he gets home.  Doctors typically start a child off on a low dose and wait for parent feedback.  Have you talked with your doctor about this problem?
   Second, his behavior sounds very much like what you see posted here about 5 year olds who have pretty good intelligence.  He has found a behavior that gets him what he needs.  You need to change that behavior.  A great book to help you do this is -  "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark.    Along with this book, you also need to make sure that you understand what a child with ADHD can and can not do - and how to work with that child.  The best book I have found for that is - "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley.

[margypops]

I would speak to the doctor again adderall and lamictal have been known to have interactions   .here is a link about it read up..I think you may find it is the meds contributing to the behaviors   www.drugs.com/...interactions/adderall-with-lamictal-190-1645-143...  or www.drugs.com