Help with 6 year old behavior

[nicbug1974]

I have a 6 year old daughter who began having seizures at age 5 months (she has been seizure free for a year and a half now).  Last summer she was diagnosed with juvenile arthritis, but also well controlled.  Now this years treat is ADHD, she is totally out of control. She talks back, runs off, the complete opposite of what we ask. Her sleep patterns are wacky. Frankly we are at the end of our rope.  I've tried charts, positive discipline even taking away favorite toys everything we have tried has back fired. We stick to it follow through and either she just doesn't care or she makes our lives hell (like when we took away her favorite doll, which I might add she never got back). I ask her to be quiet and she talks louder, the list goes on and on.  She is an extremely loving affectionate child, she does care if someone is hurt or sad, she does not have a violent bone in her body.  She just will not behave. She also has the worst impulse control I've ever seen. Has anyone else seen this kind of behavior? What do you do to get the a little of the results you would like to see? I do think some of her problems are from the 100's of seizures she had from age 5 months to 4 years old and the damage they caused. But there had got to be something to help us deal with her impulse control. Thanks in advance for any input.

[Sandman2]

     And the other problem is that most of what you have tried really doesn't work for a child this young  (in a few more years, yes), and it definitely doesn't work with ADHD kids.  If you were to go on the ADHD site where I usually post, you would see this is pretty normal behavior.  The sad thing is that whoever diagnosed her didn't give you much info on how to work with kids like her.
     I recommend the book, "The ADD/ ADHD Answer book," by Susan Ashley a lot.  I think in your case I would highly recommend it because it will cover everything from discipline to coping with schools and homework to IEP's , etc.
     Another book which is very age appropriate is "SOS Help for Parents," by Lynn Clark.   She explains how to use the timeout system effectively.  This system will also work well for ADHD kids - as long as you understand what ADHD is doing to the child.
      If you do have any more questions, you can always find me here - http://www.medhelp.org/forums/ADD---ADHD/show/175
   Best wishes!

[ChristineMP]

You need to see a counselor who is experienced with ADHD children who can work with your family. You will need tools to help you cope with your daughter's behavior and that is something that takes a long term commitment and working with an experienced person one on one...not an internet message board.