How do I handle my son (6 years old) playing "private parts" game

[IowaMom605]

Our son is 6 the other boy is 4 and they were playing last night, all fine until they disappeared around the corner and one boy's pants were down and the other boy looked to be getting ready to put his mouth on the other boy's privates.  I am pretty freaked out and don't quite know how to response or react - what is appropriate?  Obviously they need to know that this is not acceptable - but what then?  This is not the first time something similar has happened - there was a little girl (6 years old) that lived by us last summer and that's when all of this started.  She taught the boys the "private parts" game.  I feel very sad for the little girl who knew WAY more than a child twice her age should even know, but I am greatful she has since moved.  Unfortunately we can't erase the 6 months of eye-opening experiences and information provided to our boys in that time.  So what now?  How do we get past this safely, and correctly and do what's best for the boys? What should we be doing differently?

[venustiana]

Like somebody said you have to talk to the kids (but calmly) about been private parts that you never show others just use them for 1 or 2 in the bathroom, it's important that they know not to touch others and not to let others touch them. You could try to find books in the public library that adresses that issue. I hope this help. Next step would be counseling.

[1lovedMom]

Can you tell me if any of this advise has worked? I am in a bind and need help I have no idea where to turn Please help

[Suhatuha]

I think that kids want a reason to stop doing that and as what you said without overreacting and drawing more attention to it otherwise they will do it always just to take your attention.
when any thing happen give them any reason that kids can believe, like for example this is dirty how you can touch it this is only for number 1 and 2 and no one see it only in the bathroom you can take your pants out. and show him how discuss is that.
another example if one laying and the other one up to him or something like that, tell them comon to play another game this will heart you like this you dont want to be hurt right ! and so on

i think that they see someone or at least on tv, cuz every where kids can see and do the same, and if they didnt see they want to try .. why this and why other
and with growning up you must tell them in a good way what they need from sexual staff before they being in something wrong ! but dont go deeply every age must know something depending on the age.

I always told my boys this area (private parts) your parts, no one have the right to see it or touch it even your Mom or Dad. so if he take a bath with his brother i let him ware a short and when he want to take his clothes out i tell him go to your room and close the door, so your brother can not see you.
that help them when any one at shcool or at any where tell him show me or i want to do something he will not allow them easily !

Hope you pass from this fast :) focus on other things that let them be busy when they playing together, so that there is no time to playing this game!

[ConfusedMommy513]

I'm glad to read your post.  I noticed my son (4yrs) playing in his closet with a younger boy (3yrs) and they were quiet and I checked on them and the boy was laying on the floor on his stomach and my son was standing over him trying to take his own shirt off.  He has never done this before and this was the second time playing with the boy.  I'm sure it was just curiosity, but I don't know how to react without overreacting and drawing more attention to it.  He seems obsessed with body parts and trying to touch people's bellys and butts and it scares me sometimes.  

[SL345]

Best to set up "touching" rules and, like any other rules, when you see signs that they are being violated remind your child. To the extent that it goes on behind closed doors, they need to play in supervised areas - no closed doors. Give positive reinforcement for following the rules. If they don't follow the supervision rules, there should be consequences - somkething that will get their attention but not overly punitive. Talk to them separately about how they felt when that girl did what she did and what they remmeber of it. Get them to talk about exactly what they remember. If the behavior continues, seek counseling from people trainied in this area.