How to determine if your child has been abused by your spouse?

[Chicacares]

My daughter told me tonight that she has asked her brother to lick her privates on mor than one occasion.  My daughter is 9 and son is 6.  I listened and tried to make her feel as comfortable as possible in talking with me.  I asked her how she thought about that and she said she saw it on tv when I was at work and her dad was home with her and her brother.  She also says he watched it while he made the kids clean the house then said he did it all.  I'm worried about the behavior and why my husband would watch such a thing in front of the kids I'm also worried if that's not how she really learned that behavior.

[specialmom]

Youch.  Yuck.  I would guess as well that she is telling the truth.  However, her asking her brother to do it to her takes it to a new level.  

set up the clock, but I'm not sure after a day with the clock at home if I'd be comfortable with this situation.

Good question--  bio dad?

[AnnieBrooke]

I would guess she is not fibbing.  But if you aren't sure and want to know what your husband is doing when you are gone, there are these secret-camera clocks that can be set up to film the home when you are away.  If you think he won't notice, set one up.  Is your husband her biological dad?