Howe to tell 9 yr old that Santa will not be able to bring presents

My husband and I have had a very rough year this year, and are barely able to put food on the table everyday and provide gas to and from work.  Other years, we have been able to do very well for our son, but this year we will not be able to spare a dime for any presents, etc.  We cannot even get a Christmas tree.  

How can we tell our son that we just cannot buy any gifts this year?  He is usually very strong and understanding, but it is already breaking our hearts to tell him.  

Thank you.

[Kevin Kennedy, Ph.D.]

You've said it in the best way possible - that is, clearly and to the point. But be sure you've covered all bases in getting some help, even just a little help, form local agencies (e.g., newspaper, religious groups, civic groups/associations). My guess is that if you appeal for such help that at least a little will be forthcoming. This can be a humbling experience, and it will take some strength, but is a good thing to do on behalf of your son.

[starshine]

I myself was unable to "spare a dime" and am getting all my christmas bought for my 2yr old.  Call local elk lodges and contact your local social services department.  Both of these places either recieve donations to help or can direct you where to go (my social worker referred me to a shelter where I livedfor 4 months and that is who is doing most of my Christmas.)  Also Walmart and food pantries have Angel Trees where your child can write a small list of gifts that will get donated, within reason.

[mandy n]

Oh how i feel for you. You sound such a loving mother and your son will know how much he is loved -i know love is much more important than the material things in life -but try and tell that to a 9year old boy eh? I too have a 9 year old boy - how i wished i lived near you ( im in England) so i could give you some of his toys.  Im sure that you will be able to tell him that you have no money this year - maybe tell him that as soon as you can - be it in the sales etc - youll get him what he would like -. Have you no family that could help out in the short term? Theres so much pressure these days for kids to have all the "latest" fads -the label clothes - dinners at Mcdonalds etc - and unless you earn a good amount of cash it cant be done. I think that your son will grow into an adult and value all he has got -he will know the meaning of love -that his parents cared so much that they were worried theyd let him down -he wont be a spoilt child and wont turn into a conceited adult.
Please let me know how it went - id love to hear back from you. God bless - Love mandy x